Once shared, was it positive?

[Maccar305]

For those of you who have shared your ultimate fantasies with someone, did your openness lead to new levels of intimacy and fun.......or was it a case of bubble well and truly burst?

When you say shared, do you mean discussed or actually carried them out?

@DixonD, discussed.
Should have been clearer, sorry!

That’s what I thought but thought I should check so you got the answers you’re looking for.

Yeah I have shared some fantasies and it has been positive. Either we have carried them out or had a honest discussion about why not. But there has been no judgement from either side.

At times I've felt pressure from men to have and share sexual fantasies. Especially when I was younger, just sex itself was enough of a fantasy.
Ime from a women to a man - they are gagging to hear sexual fantasises so I can't imagine unless they are completely unhygienic or illegal they would balk st hearing about anything....

I have and it has been positive. We've either carried out the fantasy or he's used his knowledge of it in the moment eg dirty talk etc which was a real turn on.

100% positive - I did some stuff that I never thought I was capable of and some things we discussed I wasn't comfortable with so obviously didn't, but glad I knew his thoughts and I do think it brings you closer

I did and it was probably a negative experience
female partner wanted to do something I was not entirely happy about

Would you care to expand?

something my female partner really wanted to try, but like bondage , but not quite
she really liked it , me not so much, but she wanted to so we did it

There's one particular fantasy that for me is a complete turn on at this stage of my life.
We mention it as dirty talk during sex which adds a lot to the moment and turns us both on.
Not sure we'll ever actually do it, but the talking about it adds extra spice.

How do you guys bring up fantasies?

Like @Thorninhisside says, we have a couple of fantasies we often bring up during sex and gets us both off. But it’s never something we talk about outside of sex.

Any tips to how to share welcome!