It makes me feel a bit sick

[Lottpiglet]

DP and I have been together for 15 years. He's funny, smart and a brilliant dad. We get on well, he's super supportive and kind.

Around 4 months ago he cut all of his hair off as he was thinning round the middle of his head. I think he could have got away with leaving it way longer but he was adamant. While I'm getting used to it, I'm finding intimacy really difficult. The bald look really suits a lot of men but not my DP at all. I know, I know - I'm not perfect, it would be outrage if I put on loads of weight and he didn't fancy me anymore but I've tried to work through it over the last few months and I can't help how I feel.

Will these horrible feelings fade do you think? I feel like sex is really forced, it just seems to different. I don't think he is aware at all how I'm feeling and I hope he doesn't see through me.

I know what you mean OP. I don’t fancy bald men either and I’m not sure what I’d do in your situation. Can’t imagine having the phwoar feelings I get when I look at him now.

If you’re planning on staying together then ultimately you have to get used to it. If his hair is badly thinning then he’s going to be going bald whether he shaves it or not soon enough. It’s just part of being a couple getting older.

If you can’t get over it the by all means end the relationship, but it’s going to be guesswork in finding a new partner as to whether you’ll eventually end up with the same problem.

Its weird because it's not like I've never found a bald man attractive but I can't emphasise how much it doesn't suit him! Still love him very much but I really miss those feelings of real longing.

It feels like such a minor thing to break up a family over but it's certainly putting a bit of a strain on the relationship at the moment. As I say, it just doesn't suit him and it feels so early in our lives for him to have given into a bit of thinning.

As I say, it just doesn't suit him and it feels so early in our lives for him to have given into a bit of thinning.

unfortunately it’s his hair, his head, his choice really 🤷🏼‍♂️, but you could always drop a few hints about liking his previous hair and how you miss it

My husband does this too, for similar reasons but he still looks ok with the hair so I don’t know why he insists on it but it makes him feel better. I’d prefer it if he didn’t. However, bald or not, it doesn’t change my feelings towards him, sexually or otherwise.

That's interesting. Was it just not a big deal for you when he first started shaving it off?

Just how bad does he look OP! You keep saying it really doesn't him. Does he have a peculiar shaped head?

He's really tall with a fairly small head and quite sticky out ears! It wasn't nearly as prominent when he had hair!

you would consider breaking your family up over a hair cut? 🤐

Are you normally this shallow?

Just wondering if feeling that sexual attraction go away in your 30s was something others could live with. Good for you that you are above that 👑

You will have to tell him he looks like a bit of a cock.
start saving for hair translpant!
I have read that some of the shampoos / treatments do actually work a bit but as soon as you stop it falls out.

Tell him he looks like a total and grow it back.

Simple.

sexual attraction is about much more than how the other person looks.