I have been married to my wife for 23 years and we’ve been having difficulties for a number of years generally, but probably stemming from issues about sex.
Sex is infrequent, maybe a handful of times each year, if that. My wife is indifferent to sex and me physically (although she says she still fancies me) although I am still in reasonably good shape and from my point of view not much different to how I looked when we me 25 yeas ago.
When we first got together, like lots of couples, we were at it like rabbits and she was always wet and used to tell me me that she got wet just thinking about me, holding my hand or just sitting next to me.
Fast forward to today and she doesn’t get wet at all apart for the occasions that we have sex, usually during rather than before. I have asked her if she still ever gets wet thinking about me or when holding my hands still, like she used to. She said she doesn’t and hasn’t for a very long time, but she say she still fancies me, even though she never shows it in any way and hasn’t for as long as I can remember.
She is not in her menopause yet.
Is it normal for women who still fancy their long term partners to never get wet like they used to when they first got together, or is it fairly normal. Do women who still really fancy their long term partners still get wet at the thought of them?
Is my wife’s lack of wetness in this way a truer indication and reflection of how much she finds me sexually attractive now?