Closed leg position

[Acesup6995]

I am a married guy with a kind of weird question for women, or anybody really. My wife in addition to being very inhibited sexually doesn’t like to talk about sex so I can’t ask her questions or get input and have to interpret her signals.

We have been married for 10 years. But for the last month every time we have sex she wants it missionary and almost immediately starts pulling her legs together tight and straight so she is like laying flat on her back with her legs squeezed together tight.

So instead of her legs being wrapped around my hips and her spread wide and me being able to penetrate her at an upward angle kid of from back to front what she is doing forces me to spread my legs wide and wrap them around her hips. This makes me have to penetrate her at a downward angle from the front basically front to back if that makes sense.

it’s a bit awkward for me and it makes it hard to go deep from that angle but I’m getting used to it. What’s puzzling to me is that it seems to be working good for her. She seems to be cumming every time she gets in this position and she keeps going and getting off multiple times.

Im very thankful to find something that works but like literally no woman I’ve been with has ever done this before including my wife for the last 10 years till now. And it seems counter intuitive cause I can’t go deep and I can’t really hit her g spot or clit from that angle. But it’s working so I’m trying to understand how it’s working and what I’m doing right or why she keeps going to this move so I can maximize my effectiveness and success satisfying her. Since I can’t ask her I’m curious if any other women like this position and why. Always trying to learn to be the best partner possible for her.

It's a fairly common thing, it hits a different spot(s), the clit isn't just the bit you can see btw! (This position also tends to make the person penetrating move more slowly, great if energetic thrusting isn't what works for her!)

https://www.womanandhome.com/health-wellbeing/closed-missionary-sex-position/

You guys probably aren't into CNC - but that is my favourite CNC position. It's just wonderful.

Also familiar with this one - wife tried it couple of years ago and completely unexpectedly had her first orgasm from penetration. Great discovery for us and now default position, though she was slightly annoyed with herself she'd not discovered it years before! Given the extra intensity and duration of orgasms from penetration its perfectly understandable why this one would be a favourite position.

My ex used to like this position. If you get your body a bit higher it allows you to grind on her clit. My ex would always orgasm like this.

Honest question... why are all you blokes hanging out in the Sex forum on a message board called Mumsnet?

I go to any other part of Mumsnet and its women talking to other women. One or two men, which is VERY welcome, but statistically, very few.

I go on this board, and it's a few women, but mainly crammed with people called "lurking male" and "gentleman" sitting on here waiting to offer advice on sex positions and other tips... wtf?

Do you blokes get excited at the thought of talking to other women on here about sex or something?

Do your wives know you're here?! 😅

I'm a male. I originally found it looking for sex advice, I don't need to get off on anything but can't speak for everyone else. I use other boards on here, money matters etc. I stayed around because I find it useful and want to help improve, where I can, my sex life with my wife so we both have the best experience possible! Just like I want to improve money life. A woman talking about sex does nothing for me, however it might help me learn things for me to try, and likewise I personally find it often useful hearing what the guys say. Life is one big learning curve, no one has mastered it.

It does also say under mumsnet 'by parents for parents', I am a parent of 3, so I presume my presence is acceptable. I also appreciate there will be loose cannons on any message board.

Ok, I'll bite.

I can't speak for every other man here, but I am just as, if not much more active on the other boards than on here, but as you can see I NC for in here. this is mainly because on my usual NN I have probably given away too much personal info, that a person who knew me could piece together. I don't really care, as its nothing I would not say in public anyway, and wouldn't deny it if asked. Here is a little more personal!

The forum is, as is often repeated on here "by parents for parents" and first and foremost, I am a parent. I have been here for years, seeking and giving advice on parenting, as well as chipping in on such boards as Films/Tv, Music, current affairs, DIY, although my knowledge on gardening and aquariums is a bit shit.

There are plenty of men on the other boards, but apart from when they announce "man here" or have an obviously male username, which I do neither, then its just not as obvious. In fact, I will happily donate £100 to a charity of your using if you happen to spot my usual NN!

I also happen to enjoy sex so also use this board. I agree there are some men that are on here getting their jollies, who are usually found out and fucked off fairly quickly. Believe it or not, and despite the nay-sayers, there are also some women who do the same too, but I accept that there are much less of them (and sometimes they are men pretending, but again, they usually get found out and seen off).

The men that are not total sleazes on here, generally get more acceptance here than on the main forums, but again, it can be contentious issue.

I actually thought the Q that started this thread, and the answers, was a decent and reasonable one but I don't really have experience on the position described so haven't chipped in until now - apologies OP for continuing with the diversion.

My wife knows I use MN, and gently takes the piss about chatting with "a load of women online", but isn't particularly interested in joining herself, although I have suggested it a few times and will show her the occasional thread, even some from here. She doesn't really do internet forums, or any social media and apart from the news and rightmove, and just doesn't have much interest in the internet in general.

Hope that answers the question from my POV, hopefully there will be some other answers forthcoming (hopefully in a way that doesn't continue to derail the thread)!

😁

Why shouldn’t men be here?

There are plenty of women on MN who are not mums either.

My husband doesn’t know I’m on here. What difference does that make?

The majority of people on this site are women - most I suspect have sex with men, and god forbid even enjoy it. It’s useful to get a male perspective on stuff sometimes - and not just sex.

Trust me, I have as much cause to hate men being on Mumsnet as anyone, possibly more so due to recent experience, but I don’t judge everyone by the actions of one or two people.

If that makes me a “cool wife/girl” or whatever insult women like to throw at each other on here, so be it. I’d rather be a cool wife than closed minded and sexist.

Well I’ll be damned. Never thought I’d learn a new trick after all these decades but looks like this is an actual thing a lot of people do. Surprised no other woman I’ve been with ever did it before but gotta say kind of exciting to stumble on something new after 10 years with my wife that works so well to get her off. I am all for doing anything that makes her cum as often and as strong as possible. I always say I’d freaking bake brownies if it gave her orgasms. It’s a weird fetish to have I guess being so addicted to getting my partner off but in the grand scheme of things I could have a lot worse kinks.

I’ll work with whatever tools I’m given as long as I’m given tools that work. Exciting to get another tool kinda like playing with a new toy.

And for the record I’m on here because my wife doesn’t like to talk about sex and refuses to do sex therapy and I can’t afford $300 an hour to learn from a sex therapist anyway. I have to interpret my wife’s cues and responses as best I can without being able to outright ask her since she won’t talk about sex and what she likes and doesn’t like it like weirds her out sadly. But I still want to learn to be the best partner and give my wife the best sex life possible. So I come on here to get some input from other women to help me maybe figure out my wife’s wants and needs better. It’s not ideal but working with what I got. Using my brain as my biggest sex organ to try to learn how to make it more satisfying for her and then maybe she will eventually loosen up enough to talk about it and tell me what she wants and try some things so I can find her buttons the easy way. Until then I’ll do whatever I have to do. She deserves the best from me and I want to give her the best.

It would only be odd if it were a 'Solo sex for Ladies' heading. As it is, many of the posts relate to sex with male partners, so us chaps might be involved in the issues raised or are experiencing similar with our partners in our own relationships.