I squirt A LOT .. I think my bf thinks it's gross?

[anonomoo]

Basically I'm getting embarrassed because I squirt but I don't just squirt I literally gush and soak everything.

But lately my bf has made comments about it and said when women squirt it's literally peeing everywhere (which just makes me feel awkward because I genuinely can't stop it and if I don't reach to that point then I haven't got off)

And I think sometimes he seems really reluctant to pleasure me because he knows what's going to happen. And his attitude about it these days just makes me feel awkward like it's an inconvenience. And the "pee" comments makes me wonder if he finds it gross if he believes I'm peeing all over the place.

I'll literally go to the toilet before hand and if I orgasm I will still soak everywhere with what sometimes feels like liters of water (it probably seems like that much but probably isn't lol)

I don't know what to achieve by posting this maybe just some reassurance that I'm not alone 😩 cause I also think maybe he hasn't been with many "squirters" so thinks it's gross that I do maybe?

Most guys find it hot, all the guys I been with loved it when I squirt and like you I squirt a lot when I cum

As a fist time poster giving you the benefit of the doubt.

Assuming that you’re using a good quality sex blanket to absorb the liquid and preserve the bed sheets and make clean up easy.

If he feels the way he does you’re incompatible. He’s allowed not to like it but your post reads that he’s shaming you for how your body works which is awful.

Throw him back and find someone who you can make feel like the king of the world by making you squirt!!

You can’t help it so I agree with the others - find another partner.

Oh dear god not gross at all. One of the hottest things there is. Been married for 10 years so haven’t been with squirter in a long time but been with a few. One of the hottest experiences. Seriously it’s his loss and if he doesn’t appreciate it guarantee plenty others will.

The first time a lady squirted as I was giving her oral I wondered what had happened. I did not dislike it I was just surprised. I now love it when it happens and feel it is a sign that I am doing exactly what my DW wants. I take it a a compliment.

yes exactly I take it very much as a compliment when a girl squirted when I was going down on her or any other way. Most women are capable but it’s about relaxing, technique and mentality. And it’s definitely not pee. Silly urban legend.

Also in my past experience squirting was rarely like it’s depicted in porn. Never met a woman who squirted with velocity like that. Usually more of a gushing flood or a volcanic eruption but not projectile squirting like it gets depicted.

I can imagine it's a fun experience but if I was having sex daily and squirted every time I'd find that so frustrating to clean up. But I've never squirted so maybe I'm missing out lol

You can tell the male responses from the female. Biologically speaking, squirting is a response from G spot stimulation. You may release fluid from a clitoral orgasm, but for female ejaculation, you need G spot. It comes from the Skene gland. So you would not ordinarily squirt from oral unless there was internal stimulation.

@Chellybelle yeah I don't squirt from oral mostly it's during foreplay (fingers) or when I'm on top during sex I think because of the position angle.

@WereHereAndItsNow yeah we always put a sheet down to save the bedding lol. It's just a tough one because we've been together a long time and we do have a toddler...he used to appear to be totally into it but definitely makes me feel like I'm a chore of some sort because I get the feeling he doesn't want me to quirt. But I can't leave because of our sex life because of what I've mentioned above and other than that we're happy but we're just not sexually compatible x

Hi @anonomoo I agree does make it harder to leave for the reasons you mentioned I’d made the assumption it was not an LTR. That’s being said it does make the “peeing everywhere” comment even more off!

I think you maybe have to sit down and really outline how he’s made you feel and how you feel about it. Otherwise he’s going to eventually bring down you self esteem if he hasn’t already.

My only other suggestion as you mentioned about putting a sheet down is to invest in a specialty designed sex blanket such as a Splash Blanket that have an absorbent core. We have one and it is much more relaxed and much more aesthetic with one which may help both of you.

hope You can work it out 👍

I'm very jealous! I would love to be able to and just don't seem to be. I've only ever heard post comments from men with partners who squirt so I'm sad for you if he's making you feel negative about it.

Umm, your boyfriend is gross for not liking it when you squirt.

Never squirted at all, I just kind of 'flood' when I have my first orgasm and just get really wet at that point. We are usually on a towel or blanket of some kind so it is not a big deal and my husband loves to watch me on my own too.

I love a squirter, he’s mad!

I’d love to make my wife squirt. Quite jealous and he should think how lucky he is 😂

Have you pointed out that men make far more 'mess' than women and you rarely hear women complaining that their husbands have ejaculated.

Absolutely nothing wrong with it, I find it a massive turn on. If your partner can’t get on board that’s his problem not yours

Unfortunately there is a lot of squirting porn where the woman actually urinates, so then some men end up with unrealistic expectations that women will gush liters, whereas for others they get the impression that when a woman actually does squirt, it's pee.

Keep squirting and enjoy reaching your orgasm. It's nothing to be ashamed of. As a man I loved it when my partner squirted. First partner/girlfriend squirted when she was riding on top leaning back whilst I rubbed her clit. The only things that got wet was my face and chest and the wall and headboard. Easy clean up. My former wife would squirt a lot of fluid and wasn't at all embarrassed by letting it go everywhere because she knew I loved it. In fact on our honeymoon she was lying next to me in bed one morning when I was fingering her with the come hither motion with two fingers and with my tongue on her clit, she squirted a lot soaking the ceiling/bed/wall opposite and me, but I put my face deliberately in the way. I'm not a scientist or medically qualified, but is squirt pee? From having drunk my partners pee on lots of occasions and squirt, it's not pee. Pee is salty. Squirt isn't.

Squirting is the absolute best. If he doesn’t like it then tough tiddies I say !!!

Man here. Sounds like you are incompatible. What you give is the greatest compliment and if the alternative is to be inhibited and go into your shell then there’s really little point in having sex with him