Kegels and the Big "O"

[Ohohmygiddyaunt]

NC for this.
I have a new partner after my divorce. I was with ExH for 20 years since my early twenties so frankly don't have many long term sexual partners to compare to. I have never orgasmed from penetration alone, only with clit stimulation.
New partner made a comment that this surprised him and perhaps bothers him a bit. He has apparently always been able to make his partners come that way. It wasn't meant in a horrible way but I did feel a bit hurt and like something is wrong with me. But then I got curious because I have never actually thought about it. And it seems that although it's quite common not to orgasm through penetration alone (obvious from other threads here as well!) doing kegels could help. And hand on heart, I have never done my kegels (even after giving birth) and it would probably not be a bad thing to start doing.
So, my question to you - where do I begin? Do I buy balls? Eggs? Electric "things"? Or just download the NHS squeezy app?
And has anyone actually had success in strengthening pelvic floor and achieving better orgasms.

How 'girthy' is he?
Lol, that autocorrected to 'filthy! 😆

If he's both, then you might get lucky & orgasm on penetration, or then again you might not.

I agree with the PP that he shouldn't be making you feel inadequate at all - certainly not this early on in the relationship. 🫤

I've never orgasmed through PIV alone so I'd be surprised that all his exes did

Yeah I’m sure they all did ;)
download the squeezy app if you want a regular reminder to do them

The Perifit is good.

Imagine a world where sex only involved stroking mens’ testicles. And we all knew that the shaft was the most sensitive spot, but the “main event” was stroking testicles. And we made men feel bad for not orgasming from testicle play. And we told them to relax and let go, then maybe they’ll orgasm from testicle play, if they just try hard enough. And a small number of men can orgasm from testicle play, so why can’t they all? So 3/4 of men start faking it because they feel inadequate and don’t want to offend their partners. This is how sex feels for many women—they need clitoris stimulation, not only vaginal stimulation. Your new partner needs to stop making you feel inadequate about it.

See a pelvic floor physiotherapist who can guide you on how to do kegels and give you a programme.

You are all so very right. In fairness to him, he did not intend to upset me but it was more an observation I think (and although I don't exactly know his number of previous partners I don't believe it's a massive pool to compare to - maybe a few .)
I guess it just made me curious as to whether it is something that can be achieved. Maybe I've just never explored that part before as have always been used to and happy with clit stimulation.
I suspect the other key here is to get to know each others bodies with time and patience. It's still relatively early days in our relationship.
I've downloaded the Squeezy App and will try to follow some exercises. It's probably not a bad thing to do regardless of outcome on the orgasm front!

He doesn’t seem to fully understand how a woman “works” to be honest.

He also appears to have been fed a lot of myths and legends along the way.

Personally l climax the strongest through oral. I’m also a regular vibey user; more or less daily but l wouldn’t want 1:1 sex that often.

On the kegel front generally, l would recommend a vaginal bar bell. I’ll leave you to Google them if you are interested. Don’t do what l did though and drop it on your foot. They are quite heavy. Add to that a touch of gravity and ouch!

@Ohohmygiddyaunt said:

I have never orgasmed from penetration alone, only with clit stimulation.
New partner made a comment that this surprised him and perhaps bothers him a bit. He has apparently always been able to make his partners come that way.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

He thinks he's been able to make his partners come that way, the poor deluded chap! 😉 God bless those women, massaging his fragile ego! 😂

Mr Gullible with a capital G 😂