Bad sex or something else?

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I've been seeing someone for the last 6 months. I have known him for over a decade and we are comfortable with one another.
Everything is brilliant apart from the sex. He is never able to ejaculate from piv, has once from oral (and this took 40 minutes) but usually he either finishes himself off or things just come to a disappointing end when he loses his erection.
He says he has always been like this but I'm not sure if I believe him, I have poor self body image and this is making it worse.
This is making me dread sex, it always lasts for 1-2 hours and half of the time he doesn't ejaculate but when he does it's because he finishes himself.
I really like this man, and want to be close with him but without being too graphic I like the feeling of a man finishing inside of me and I think that's the most intimate thing you can do. I can't help but feel there is something wrong with me.
Has anyone ever experienced anything like this before? I've never had this problem with any other partner, it's really affecting my confidence

There a few sexual dysfunctions the can affect men , sounds like he might suffer from delayed ejaculation - lots of reasons for this, meds (Ssri), spinal injuries , diabetes, age , prostate issues etc etc

Try reading up on it

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/ejaculation-problems/

It's probably worth having a conversation about masturbation. How often and how?

DP has DE sometimes, usually because he has a wank every morning at home and, I think, is a bit desensitised. When he sees me every few weeks, he often can't cum from PIV.

We're currently on holiday. No wanking and he's cum inside me every day. I rest my case!

Thanks for the replies, I have had a little read about delayed ejaculation and it does sound very much like that. He does take beta blockers so perhaps this is part of it.
I haven't explicitly asked but I assume he regularly masturbates, he was single for a couple of years before we got together. When he does it after sex it's very vigorous for want of a better word, I'd never actually seen anyone handle themselves as roughly as he does (and I'm had many partners!)

Does anyone know if this is something that can be overcome? As much as I like him, I'm too young to be having sex that makes me feel rubbish afterwards.

he will be taking beta blockers for his health- so you are probably not the right partner for him

If you are anxious about how your body looks, why would you imagine that he isn't about how his body works?
Why is his ejaculating the prime metric for good sex?
If you have poor body image, but have had many partners, why?
Advice to dump him because he's on beta blockers is perverse.
Some of us would kill for sex that lasted more than 5min, never mind 1-2hrs.
And if the MN Sex thread is working as it usually does, someone will be along shortly to tell you it's because he's addicted to port, which is bullshit.

I'm sure he also has anxieties about his body. I've never said that he doesn't.

I've had poor self confidence since having my child - my body shape has changed since having a csection. I have not always had poor body image.

Sex that lasts for over an hour is not great - it can be painful and also boring, and sometimes just seems so pointless when we both know he will lose his erection and then we will just stop, or he will finish himself by hand. That's not to say I'm not enthusiastic at the beginning, but after 45 minutes or so I start regretting engaging in sexual activity, and then I start thinking about how he probably isn't that attracted to me.

It's probably not rational but it's how I feel and I cannot help that. I have raised this as a conversation with him and he wasn't willing to discuss it properly, so now I don't want to raise it again.

I couldn't be in this relationship. Sorry, OP. For me it wouldn't be worth it.

Hi op I’ve thought long and hard about your post before replying. I am male my wife who I love very much has never come through penetration alone. I have had partners previously who did and the last long term partner before her every time.

Would I like her to come every time by penetration, yes, do I miss feeling the my cock is king yes course I do. Would I swap it for the twenty amazing years we’ve had together no. That was my decision and you have to make yours.

if every man who couldn’t make there partner come though PIV ended it from what I’ve read on here and a very recent post there would be a number of break ups.

We use sex toys together and she comes with them. Depending on his refraction time you could adopt a He comes first approach!!

There are loads of good guybrators out there Hot Octopus being the number one. I would definitely invest in the £200 to see how this makes you both feel before you bin this relationship. (I have read your relationship board post)

I am sure he thinks you’re hot as fuck! I really don’t buy into the porn thing. The less porn I consume the longer I last. Contra to what you read on here.

The very best of luck op xx