Affair

[FancyWriter]

God where to start!
I have been familiar with this man for many years and thats because we use to meet up and just have sex. Not much conversation, mainly through sexting and talking about what we wanted to do to each other. I think it was sexual attraction and for me an unhappy relationship. After a few years it ended, we ghosted each other. I have not seen or spoken to this man in years, until a few months ago and it started back up again, still no conversation, we know nothing about each other’s lives, however he is married. We meet, say a few words, have sex and go our separate ways. The issue is I am not getting anything out of it! After less that 10 mins he is done and we are on our separate ways. What is it with this situation? Why have we entered what ever this is, with no actual chat?

If you're not getting anything out of it, why do it? Just stop.

This doesn't sound much of a relationship, just a f**k buddy type arrangement allowing him convenient sex on his terms outside his marriage. Assuming you're not in another relationship yourself surely you want much more than he's offering and a meaningful relationship with someone who values you as a person, not just a bit of convenient fun on the side.

And even if you aren't looking for anything serious with anyone at the moment, there are more satisfactory FWB arrangements you could be having which are on your terms. Time to knock this one on the head I reckon - you don't sound particularly happy with it.

I think you must be getting something out of it, else you wouldn't be there. Is it that you're enjoying the sexting and the attention, but the sex is rubbish?

If it's just simple messaging to say let's meet up, and it's less than 10 minutes of bad sex, then put yourself out there and find a different partner who will make you gasp.

^^ this

Sounds like you are his wank sock and it's likely he's quite satisfied with the arrangement.
If I was the boss of you I'd say stop doing it!!

In the nicest possible way you’ve allowed that to happen. I’d start by blocking his number.

The question you should be asking is why are you allowing this man to use you as glorified wank fodder?

I find it odd that you ask why 'we have entered whatever this is'. There's no 'we' - you need to look inside yourself and ask why you allow yourself to be used.