Sex

[johnson39]

Please can anyone advise, my new partner is very well endowed, I am very very petite and sex is very painful as he's so big, he great in every way , but just way too big for me, have tried lube etc is this gonna be a deal
Breaker for me, or is there anything o can do ?

Petite or not, assuming you are an adult your body is capable of pushing a full-term foetus out of there. I doubt he’s that well endowed! What is critical is that you are relaxed, feeling safe and that he’s treating you properly.

Try working up to it by agreeing to please each other by masturbation, just so you don’t feel pressured. See if you can increase the amount of stretch in your vagina that you find enjoyable- 1-4 fingers, maybe toys, fisting…

if length is the issue you can experiment with different positions, spooning with him behind you will take up some length.

Has he had issues with previous partners? Does he have any suggestions?

Don't have sex that is painful! Find other ways to enjoy each other that don't involve PIV. As suggested, there may be ways to adapt to adapt and accommodate him, but you don't owe him access to your vagina and don't feel that you have to do anything that you aren't into!

I slept with a guy recently who had a 6 inch girth! I'm not petite, but I did find that going on top helped massively because I could control the thrusts more. There are certain positions that offer more shallow penetration. Reddit has a big dicks board which has some good tips on it for managing a well endowed guy. I definitely think there's something you could do though. If you really like this guy then get reading and try some of the tips on Reddit . Good luck!

Here's the link to the Reddit board

https://www.reddit.com/r/bigdickproblems/s/8SmVGqcDtp

I have found that it does get easier over time. I think its a combination of physically getting used to it and generally relaxing with him. Then things just got better and better xx

I’m in the same situation with DH.

• If we go for long periods between sex (eg, when we were in the thick of it with parenting tiny children), it’s painful when we try again.
• Some positions are painful.
• If I’m not 100% ready through foreplay, it’s painful for the both of us, but more so for him.
• We use lots of lube.

It sounds as if you are going for gold too soon. Lots of oral beforehand (and l mean lots) and vary the different lubes until you find one that’s right for you.

I'm quite small down there, I've got a small pelvis and ended up having all my children by c section because of it. But my husband is on the larger side and it's not painful. I think if you have lots of foreplay, do it regularly and are properly aroused before he enters you then it might improve. You could try positions that allow for shallower penetration. If none of that works then I don't know what you're going to do.

'Petite or not, assuming you are an adult your body is capable of pushing a full-term foetus out of there.'

Tbf not really comparable as the pelvis and vagina are not in a state capable of pushing a foetus out of there on a daily basis, hence the hours and sometimes days of dilating and then pushing etc, one would not expect that much prep for sex.

As everyone else has said op you obviously need to take it slow, lots of foreplay and lube.

It’s the cervix that needs to dilate. The vaginal walls probably can’t cope with giving birth without a certain amount of bruising, but they are surprisingly elastic and, unless the poor bloke has some kind of prize-winning marrow in his trousers landing him at an unfortunate, evolutionary dead end, ought to be able to give his partner a decent shag with a bit of effort, patience and communication.

Yes of course it's the cervix that dilates my point is the pelvis and everything is involved in delivering a baby not just an elastic vagina or else we'd pop them out in ten mins, so as I say comparing the ability to deliver a baby to sex isnt really relevant.

But yes he should be able to give his dp a decent shag with a bit of effort patience and communication, true.

I think it is in terms of the elastic limits of the vagina. I’m having a hard time picturing a penis so enormous penetrative sex is a lost cause and yet a bloke who is trying to skimp on the foreplay is depressingly likely.

@johnson39 @NinaOakley yes! She is right. Believe me, I’m very petite and small, I thought my first few boyfriends had a large package on them, until I met my most recent ex, I felt like I didn’t know how I was going to make it work lol. Man was seriously well endowed and there was no hiding it. I had people ask me if he was as big as they thought because they didn’t know how it would work with me being tiny. I’m very shy so I would just get red and flustered if they asked this. I would need him to do lots of foreplay which he was always willing to do anyways but something that was really key was as we were trying to get him in…he’d rub my clitoris the whole time and it made me accept more of him slowly. You can do it girl! Sounds like you’re very blessed and so is he! 😉

@johnson39 @DippingAToeIn definitely many things you can do! Speaking from experience and this post might have me missing that now 🤦🏼‍♀️