What can I do?

[Newusernameforthis1234]

Name change for this as I feel ashamed.
Me and my ex separated when our DC was 3 months. DC is 4 years old and I did not have sex or even a date since then. I do not have time to meet someone because DC is so little but I really miss having sex, not jjust sex but also the intimacy when having a partner. I did thought about FWB but I do not have friends here ( I'm from another place) and I never had sex without being in a relationship.

Will I need to wait until DC is older? I'll be then late 40,so early 50's. Do I need to be resigned I won't have any more sex, dates or just someone who would give me a hug? This makes me very sad.

Hi! Just wondering if your DC is ever with their Dad? Could you find some time to date at those times perhaps, or maybe get a babysitter?
FWB is an option but you'd still need time to meet up with one if you did find one. There's a thread on this board about finding a casual partner which might be of interest to you. I really don't think you need to wait until you're in your 40s and 50s to start dating! I hope you can find a way xxx

Your little one will be in nursery soon if they are not already. If you want to do the fwb thing daytimes is an option.

Take care of yourself. I think it helps to be clear if it’s sex you want or a relationship. With a fwb, what do you expect from that friendship besides the benefit?

Theres no reason to be ashamed. It’s a perfectly natural feeling.

If you want a FWB then there are lots of sites can help you find someone. Just be honest about what you are looking for and take you time to find someone you feel comfortable with.

If you are looking for more social interaction are there any activities, you do with DC that would allow you to get to know any of the other parents?

Go onto a web site like POF and say that you want to date but nothing serious.
Take it slowly and don't do anything that doesn't feel right. You will meet the right bloke eventually.

@Newusernameforthis1234 PM me I have some things we could talk about/suggestions

Thank you

My advice is don't FWB as though it sounds a solution it rarely works out that way. People become attached or emotionally invested and end up hurt.

It can work for those able to totally disconnect sex from emotions, but they are rare unless you are already in other FWB situations or an open relationship.

For single people FWB only appear to work temporarily, though sometimes better for men than women.

Find yourself a normal relationship