Low libido v 24/7 horniness

[Mindovermatter247]

So DP and I have been together 20 years, sex was amazing before kids, started taking a turn about 5 years ago, my libido is at an all time low, it’s nothing to do with him, when we do, do it, it’s amazing. It’s usually about 5 days in a month that I’m actually in the mood, now I know how frustrating this is for DP, and believe me it’s frustrating for me because I want to be in the mood, we are both sexually attracted to each other. The problem I’ve got is he asks me every night if I’m in the mood, which then in turn pisses me off especially if I’m far from in the mood. Because I can’t please him and I feel like I’m letting him down, he then stuff like fingers crossed for tomorrow. Then I get snappy because he’s putting pressure on me, ask him to not keep going on about it, he says if he doesn’t ask he’s gonna explode. I feel really bad every time he asks me. But then the pressure mounts and I think that has a negative effect aswell. I should mention I have a life long disease which low libido is a very common symptom of. Anyone else having the same problem?

I do not have this problem but if you consume superfoods and try to follow the Zoe diet on you tube then your physical wellbeing will improve and can prevent chronic disease.

I do not fast though as live on my nerves somewhat. They advocate intermittent fasting but this isn't for me.

Hello, couple of ideas. Is there anything you could do together when your libido is a bit lower that could satisfy him? Not just penetrative sex.

It sounds like simply hoping he will stop going on about it isn't going to work. If you want him to stop asking constantly then perhaps try owning the conversation. Bring it up before he does. If you've already told him on your terms you're not in the mood then he might be less likely to ask you again.

Finally is there any more you can give him than just "sorry, not tonight"? Involve him more in it, perhaps try to work out together what factors affect it. And make sure he knows how frustrating it is for you too.

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This book by Dr Karen Gurney might be worth a look.
She talks about sexual currency where its the small everyday connections that you make with each other, that keeps the spark alive.

Totally hear you op!

God, that’s tricky. Have never experienced a man with such a high drive. I’d be red raw! Could he masturbate when you’re not available?

I had the same issue and testosterone supplements were a complete game changer for me. Have you had your levels checked?

I second Karen Gueney’s book! Look up her page on instagram - thesexdoctor