Death grip

[kcchiefette]

How do you get your other half to take this seriously?

He masturbates daily. Full admission. He has admitted he can finish whilst doing this. However, he has only came about 3/4 times in 1.5 years through sex. He requires viagra to actually get hard for sex.

He has "tried" to stop in the past but I dont think he has "tried" that hard. My self esteem eventually lowered and I went off initiating sex and we hadn't had sex in a number of months.

How do I get him to take it seriously? Is it through an ultimatum?

I cant really go through years upon years of this lack of intimacy.

We do cuddle, kiss etc but its not the same, is it?

He most certainly has to be stop masturbating daily as that might have de-sentisized him a little. Perhaps there is a psychological issue, low self esteem, low attraction, performance anxiety, due to which he is unable to get hard while having sex.
Perhaps both of you need to take pressure of intercourse and build passion through dirty talk, massages, foreplay. Sex therapist could help too.

Hi. You have to talk this through. Guys masturbating is totally normal but not at the expense of relationship

talk talk and talk some more.

or buy a chastity device…