Sex feels awful - 10 months postpartum!

[Username1233]

I'm 10 months postpartum following a vaginal delivery which ended in some stitching internally and externally (but it was not an assisted birth). I'm 10 months into postpartum and i just feel that something isn't right - or is this the new me?! I have 2 DC and never experienced this after my soon.

THE AIR is insane. I wouldn't even be able to attempt yoga or similar because every time I bend down my lady bits is like a trumpet 🙃🙈. Sex feels numb and desensitised, and after the sex it's really uncomfortable. I feel almost "open" and dry. Anyone experienced the same? Any suggestions moving forward? I'm going to try and speak with my GP but to get a face to face appointment is near on impossible. I really want to enjoy sex again.

Hello @Username1233 I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this.
Does your GP surgery do eConsults? This is where you go to the GP surgery website & complete an eConsult & someone from the surgery contacts you to either speak on the phone or offer you an appointment. In the eConsult you can describe your problem as you have here & then say you feel you need a face to face appointment as you think the GP might need to do a vaginal examination. This would save you maybe having to explain it to the receptionist on the phone. The GP may refer you to Gynae or a Women's Health Physio.
The GP will be very used to dealing with things like this, so just explain it in a matter of fact way & say it is affecting you as sex doesn't feel the same & it's now uncomfortable (sex should never be painful/uncomfortable). The GP may ask if you've tried using lubricant during sex, so maybe try that first, just so you can work out if anything improves.

@Joyfulincolour thanks so much for your response! Yes surgery does do econsult and I completed one around a week and a half ago but yet to hear back. I'm going to do another tomorrow. After some Googling and looking at other people with similar issues I think it might be a mild prolapse or a very weak pelvic floor! I'm not having any urinary incontinence but am experiencing the other symptoms, and can't seem to empty my bladder fully! I'm hoping some physio might be able to help. After looking online it doesn't seem that a prolapse can be completely fixed, but we will see...! Use plenty of lubricant for sex, and despite being "wet" everything still has a dry feeling.

I'd be inclined to ask the GP for a referral to uro-gynaecology. Perineal tears can lead to various issues with continence or sensation including those you've described. You might need some physiotherapy (try the NHS Squeezey app) but, if it's more serious, surgery might be an option.