45 and think I'm bisexual

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Not sure if there are more specialist boards to be on here - please feel free to point me in the right direction.

For years I've sensed I'm bisexual, and now I'm out of a long marriage theoretically I have the ability (and the desire) to explore that. No inherent qualms about it, friends and family would be fine with it, etc.

What's stopping me is a concern that other lesbian / bi- women would see me as a blow-in, a stereotype, at 45 a complete latecomer to the party - especially as I've never been with a woman sexually before either...

Are there are women from the LBG community on here who could give me some pointers on how I might be perceived...? I don't want to wade into a space I've really no right to be in, or not "earned" my place in - and rub people up the wrong way as a result...

Thanks in advance.

There was a long running thread on the sex board titled something like.....
"like minded women"

Try a search

Loads of women become more curious as they age.

I am loving this for you.

Yep! That is me! I am a proud bisexual woman (more into women know to be honest) and it took me 46 years ..... :-)

I’m in my 40s and discovered by bi side in my early 30s, although l prefer to think of myself as “sexual” without a prefix, l feel labels are not beneficial to people.

It is certainly not too late to come to the party. In my case a friendly invite to someone’s apartment for a film and a pizza when working away from home turned into my renaissance and l never did see the end of the film.

If you live in or within travelling distance of bars/clubs where you can meet like minded people, l think this is the way to go.

You are right to be cautious, some, but l don’t think the majority, may see you as just wanting to experiment with them. Also not all women who are lesbian are happy to be with someone who goes for the wider spectrum.

But there is a lovely rainbow coloured workd out there and unlike rose tinted glasses, it is real. Enjoy 🌈.

There are straight arseholes and LGBTQ aresholes. Anyone who gets hung up on how and when you got to where you are isn't worth getting hung up on.

Thanks all. I have identified some groups near me which would like to attend, but wanted to make sure I don't tread on toes...

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Thank you!

Sadly our thread got deleted. But we still have a long-running group on another chat site based from the thread, and you will certainly find lots of ladies in very similar positions to you.

Hi I'm similar - 45 and defo one of my concerns would be same as yours. Plus the fact that I'm married (no DCs), so this is something that I think is something that I can only explore on a feelings/internal identity level for now. (Think DH would be understanding but I doubt up for anything further). Not really helped by the fact that sex life with DH is difficult (a lot of droughts, long-standing mismatch in libido, plus at the mo health issues and stress which is obviously not fun for DH so don't feel I can bring up now.
Have had the odd fleeting crush or attraction in the past but over the last few years it's become something a bit more obvious - I reckon there's a LOT of factors playing into it (though that's not to say it needs to be 'reasoned away). Also just awareness that we were brought up in aggressively hetero culture - today's young people have it harder in so many ways but I envy their choice and freedom in this regard. Perhaps it's not men as such that I'm not so interested in but not as interested in myself in relation to them - lots of women of our generation probs feel like they've never known themselves sexually other than in relation to men.