Ending affair

[Allaboutthe40s]

I know this is an emotive subject so apologies if it’s triggering for anyone.
I started an affair with a man who I worked with, it started as an emotional attachment and then we ended up having sex but I know we can’t continue, I go through emotions of guilt, excitement, happiness etc but I know this is not something I can continue long term, feelings are becoming stronger and trying to separate that from my normal life is becoming harder and complex and the guilt is something I am carrying with me all the time.
I want to end it, I will miss him though and the thought of not having what we had anymore feels me with sadness but I know I have to do it.

I have been in your situation. It's not pleasant. Do you still work with him? You know what you need to do though. If you are wobbling can you constantly remind yourself of how you would feel if your partner found out. How your partner would feel?
You need to get out before it becomes even more difficult.

To play devil’s advocate here, it sounds like you get a great deal out of this relationship, are you sure?

If you still work with this man I strongly suggest you change jobs and secure your professional standing and economic position first.

Thank you for the responses, it’s what I need to hear. I often do think about how I’d feel if he found out and how he’d feel if he found out.
We no longer work together which makes things easier.
With the man I see, I get a lot out of what we have, emotional and sexual intimacy, he fills a void that is missing in my marriage.
I know this can’t go on, the burden I carry of what I’m doing every day, is too much.

Have been there. Can be a real emotional rollercoaster. Will always be 'frowned upon' but at the same time life is for living..and sexless marriages can be awful.

You know you can leave a sexless marriage, yes? There are more options available than just 'stay married and don't have sex' and 'stay married and have an affair'. Divorce is an option...

Being on the wrong end of an affair can cause long-term (or possibly even permanent) psychological damage. Either leave your husband or end the affair and hope he never finds out, then put some effort into your marriage.