Hi all, husband and I have been together a long time, 19 years this year. Together since we were 16 years old.
Recently we have been through a very rough patch with me having a massive drop in my sex drive (maybe perimenopause, getting some bloods done etc very soon) and not spending time together. We would get the kiddos in bed and then he would be in the front room and me the bedroom for the night.
I found out recently that he has been coming home from work, going into the toilet and masterbating to porn nearly every day. He said he needed to as I wasn't fancying sex so didn't want to pester me. This tbh, has grossed me out and shocked me. Me and the kids were in the front room and he is in the toilet, just one room away, wanking.
I said something needs to change and suggested we spend more time together, he helps in the house more (does nothing) and I would give him more sex.
So, finally to the point, we are now having sex almost daily. I am on the copper coil so he finishes inside. I constantly keep getting what I am almost certain is BV (bacterial vaginosis) from his cum I presume. We used to have sex maybe 1 or 2 times a week.
I have a quick shower after sex and wee. I only use water down below, no soap. I have used the BV gels/pessories but it just comes back.
For anyone that has sex daily, how do you keep fresh/keep any infections like BV away?
Thanks for reading