Casual sex/FWB

[Diogenes69]

Hi,

I’m in the situation where I’m single but do want to have sex and I miss having it. I’ve been single for a long while now and just can’t seem to meet someone. What are the best websites/apps to use for meeting people? The ones I’ve looked at have lots of obviously fake profiles or expensive. Any other suggestions for meeting like minded people? I think I would prefer a FWB but not sure how to go about it? I not that confident.

just wondering if anyone could share their experience using such apps with me?

Thanks

Certainly a lot of fake profiles but they usually try and chat for a bit before mentioning their recent bereavement and willingness to travel, or maybe if you can just check them out on their private chat channel, or .....
Of the real ones then only a small % are likely to be interested.
Can be a bit dispiriting ... but there are some real people out there who are interesting to chat to even if nothing happens. How old are you ? A couple of friends of mine met companions on Zoosk.

One word if advice - if profiles look too good to be true then they probably aren't, reverse image searching the pictures can give amusing results :)

Where are these "real live" events?
All I can find locally is one speed dating event at one of the less glamorous pubs. I'm sure there are more in city centres, but for those in the outer suburbs, that greatly increases the chance of meeting someone who lives 2+hrs away.

Fakes and timewasters are going to be a problem on any site you use. Fabswingers is a good site. Just be honest about what you are looking for.

Remember to distinguish between FWB and FB. FWB usually involves doing an activity as well as sex, whereas FB is usually just sex.

to the OP, you could always try a Swingers club, single women are always welcome there!

Quick update to all here - still getting nowhere with anything. Although on AM, I've worked out how to spot the fake profiles e.g. when they "favourite" you.....but haven't even looked at your profile, and certain standard messages that get sent out. Very frustrating as I am sure buried amongst all these, are some genuine people with similar motivations for being on the site. Will keep persevering.

Yes as , "F" with "B" is important to me too - I see the two has complementing each other, and one enhancing the other. Quite like the idea of sharing a coffee, meal out, trip out somewhere,. bit of companionship (things I also miss) as well as the sexy part.

The search continues........

Hi

fabswingers is good. Lots of fakes but less so if men ie mainly men pretending f to be couples. There are about twenty fellas to every couple or girl.

state what you want. Ask for an articulate paragraph in any msg that way you can delete the one line brigade as time wasters

insist on phone call once comfortable. Always in evening to check not married and play safe. Coffee meet first in public place

Are you meeting men you find attractive? If not go to places where you might! Just be friendly and open and brave. Good luck!

I used it once. Met a really lovely local-ish guy, went out a few times & now have a very healthy fwb situation. I just got lucky that night I think!! Have used a couple of other sites but as said up thread, there's a hell of sifting & weeding out to do.
Good luck, enjoy yourself & stay safe whatever you decide.

Tinder is the one I’ve had most success with, just be diligent and apply all the normal safety protocols.. and have fun!

Thanks for everyone that recommended Feeld. I've signed onto it and it's brilliant - much more straightforward what you want!

But a question for those in Feeld (ladies), do you put your height in the bio?

Yes, I do, because I'm tall-ish (5'9).and I always like to know someone's height too. But not everyone does..if it's important to someone they will ask

I spent all of like 2003-2011 as the other guy in other couples open marriages, the other guy for couples who liked threesomes and a lot of different FWB type scenes and arrangements. At that time in my life that’s I didn’t want commitment and liked exploring my kinks and other people’s kinks. It’s actually probably good for me and others to be like that when you are younger and single to find yourself, find what you like and find confidence so when you do find love and settle down you didn’t miss anything and are ready to truly settle down. I recommend an FWB phase for everybody.

I outgrew mine voluntarily in mid 30s. It’s not that it wasn’t fun. It is. I just eventually got bored with it, found that dating and looking for new women and juggling multiple FWB and crazy non relationships but still there’s sometimes jealousy etc, it all becomes a job eventually and becomes exhausting to maintain.

I also found that when you have one partner or a few partners you really like and take the time to develop chemistry and to really learn their bodies and minds and get comfortable with each other. Goddamn the sex is sooooo much hotter when you go deeper and learn more with one person and than retreading the same surface connection and the same surface chemistry with a series of new people. It’s only after a little time having sex you can really get to each others fun kinks.

So you should go for it and then when it gets boring you know you are truly ready to settle down and find the one and have deeper and deeper level hot sex.

My swings days were pre app. We had websites like Collarme and adultfriendfinder which today seem pretty clunky. You kids today got it too easy with your swiping and instant hookups. We had to put in some work to get laid even in the swinging scene back in my day. God if I had tinder back then can’t imagine the trouble I’d of gotten myself into.