Is it okay to say I enjoy anal sex?

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I always have. Anal eroticism generally really. I don't exactly know why although think it's a nerve-ending thing and the way it feels so good. But the whole thing still seems to me very taboo especially for a woman to say she really enjoys.

My husband indulges me but it's not something I'd mention even to my best friend and I hesitated quite a bit before writing this. We still do mostly PIV but anal is something I'd miss if we didn't do it at least sometimes.

There, I've said it!

I enjoy it also, but I'm a man and it feels much more taboo for me to say it. I definitely wouldn't tell my friends!

It's up to you what you like in bed so shouldnt be embarrassed. But why do you think anyone cares or wants to hear that you like anal sex?

@Chellybelle Probably no-one does. But - and maybe it's just my perception - there does seem to be still a bit of hesitancy, embarrassment, taboo or whatever on this and I thought it might be worth mentioning here.

I don't think it's taboo to like it, it's just that a lot of women don't like it and are coerced into it or made to feel they should like it/do it.

No you shall be lynched 😂

I found it helpful to hear your perspective actually. It's never felt good to me when I have tried it, but am keen to give it another go in case there's something I'm missing out on. So many people enjoy it, I figured I must be doing it wrong!!

Just enjoy it.

Be careful, you might just not enjoy it. There are plenty of other things thats lots of other people enjoy that I (and many others) don't enjoy.

With anal sex you need to be relaxed and take time to go very slowly without forcing anything. It should never hurt, but even if it doesn't hurt it might not just be your thing. You also need a careful, patient and considerate partner.

By all means try again, I am very much a "try something 2-3 times just in case" kind of person, but if I don't enjoy it, I can't force it. But if it's not for you, then it's not for you. There are plenty of other things you can try and enjoy!

Apologies if this comes across as a bit "teaching your granny to suck eggs", I tried my hardest for it not to be.

I'm with you, OP! I've always loved it as long as we've used enough lube. I was an anal virgin until my early 20s but since then it's usually been part of my sex life, although not every time. I can't recall never enjoying it. I think part of the reason I love it so much is because it's probably the most intimate act that two people can experience with each other.

Debatable.

What is?

This would be a VERY different thread on AIBU 🤣

There is nothing wrong with anal, I really enjoy it and have done for many years.

I’m not a fan but certainly don’t see anything wrong with you enjoying it. If your both enjoying it then go for it!

now pegging, we’ll that’s a different level of enjoyment for me. Ha ha

I expect about it being the most intimate act between two people. I would have to disagree with that as well.

I dont like it but a finger up my bum during oral sex gives me absolutely amazing orgasms

Thank you for all responses.

I was interested when a pp mentioned that anal sex was in their opinion the greatest act of intimacy. I don't think actually I agree with that.

I think intimacy is far more than just where we put the various parts of our bodies when we have sex. I think it's whatever it might be which which helps us feel closest to a partner and which needn't be specifically sexual at all. Things like cuddling and holding hands. I think it's perfectly possible to have great orgasmic sex but no real intimacy.

Maybe that's the subject for a whole different post..... 🤔

It is my husbands absolute favourite sex act and over the last 12 years I have learned to love it too, I have far more intense orgasms from anal, and it has become our normal sex act at, but I will say I don’t find it it particularly intimate, probably because it’s normally done in doggy position. PIV with lots of kissing and eye contact is still the most intimate sex act that I feel.

It's fine to like whatever you like and fine to mention or not to whoever you want too, we're all judgemental to some extent - just worry about yourself.

I personally do find it very intimate though, a lot more than PIV.

I like it - I'm not embarrassed if my friends now

same here - i'll happily discuss it with friends if its a non seedy convo