Daytime sex while the children are at home

[pregnantmum]

Somewhat lighthearted but also a real problem: my DH doesn't like to have sex during the day while my 18-year-old son is at home.

My husband works night shifts, and I try to make him understand that we can be discreet and that my son is used to respecting privacy, and he stays in his room to study.

I also bought a system that locks the door from the inside, and noise is kept to a minimum.
It happened only once that during orgasm, I let out a few moans, but he just doesn't want to hear them. I think it is a blockage he had as a child with his parents.

Does anyone else have this problem or any helpful suggestions? I'm tired of having to wait the week he doesn't work the night shift.

Just need to walk around the room ( not house ) in some revealing wear and don’t say anything. It might just get his blood flowing :)

I can’t think of anything less sexy than trying to have sex whilst one of my relatives was in the house, tbh. I don’t think it’s something you can force yourself to get over if it just feels uncomfortable.

Can you encourage your DS to get out of the house more? Study at the library or with friends, part time job, sports? Everyone needs space at times, you all sound cooped up.

It is uncomfortable.

I have certainly refused to have sex while my teenaged daughter was in the bedroom next door.

it was easier when the kids were younger and they would sleep through a little noise. But these days? Very off putting!

My partner is willing to bite down on a pillow while I go down, but that’s it.

Wait until your in-laws start living with you. 😆

I'm a man. I wouldn't be happy with this.

Goodness no I wouldn’t be having sex when other people are in the house, it’s just disrespectful at the least

Part of life. Completely normal. Teenagers will respect your privacy and if you want to prioritise sex you need to weave it into your day/ week.

I think it's OK at night it you are making every effort to be discreet. You have to find ways and means if you have a family, unless you want to kiss your sex life goodbye. I think during the day is another matter as it's a bit more obvious what you're doing, locking yourself away in a bedroom. But he's 18, it's not the end of the world if he knows his parents have sex. Just don't make noise because it's gross having to listen to it.

Just to express sympathy for your frustration. We are in a similar situation - have a son, a little older than yours, in his early twenties but working from home and spending most of the day in his room for most of the week. I don't think either of us would be comfortable slipping upstairs to have sex in this situation. To think he'd likely know what we were doing (he's not daft) and to have to make a real effort to stay quiet would put the dampener on it for me for sure.

The difference is that neither of us does shift work so although the odd day-time quicky hasn't happened for a lot of years the night time is our own. The only drawback with that is by then we're often too knackered and just want to sleep! 😴

I remember one of my friends confiding in us that she frequently heard her parents having sex during the day (we were around 16). We were nearly as traumatised as she was! I still remember it now!
Do it before he goes to work or when he gets back, going off during the day to lock yourselves in the bedroom is just ick. I still now definitely wouldn't want to hear my mum moaning from sex, it's just a huge no.

I'd love to have that "problem"

Seems fair enough

A quickie bent over the worktop in the kitchen can be fun. Not saying it is the same as serious love making though.

My wife refuses to engage when the kids are home when I want to, but can easily ignore it and go ahead when she’s in the mood. But we have to put a 16kg kettlebell behind the door and be under the covers.

To be fair, I'd refuse to engage if I wasn't in the mood as most people should.

Totally. My point is she uses it as an excuse when it suits.

What when the teenage son is in the house??

Try to be still in bed when he comes home from work so your not sneaking of making it look obvious. Play some music to drown out any possible noise? At 18 he should also be out at times with his mates at the pub etc try making use of that alone time.

Unfortunately he goes out very little and when my husband works night shifts we can only have intimacy after lunch while he is in his room.