Spice it up

[SK2970]

Hi
Looking for advice/ encouragement!!
Been with DH for 10 years and have 3yo DS. Had a very vanilla sex life so far, he hasn't got a high drive and I have been a bit of a prude. We don't talk about sex at all really but I feel like sometimes he wants more.
I want to suggest some new things, sexy underwear, toys etc. but too nervous/ self-conscious and so afraid of rejection!
Any tips to start out with? Give me the encouragement!

Do either of you watch porn? or a gentle start might be Lingerie ads, Victoria's Secret
Do you talk about sex. Tell him what you want and how you want it might be a good start.

Talking about fantasies, kinds of things you like, listening to his is a game changer. It is arousing, builds my anticipation and makes both comfortable. After 10 years of marriage, these things should no longer be awkward or taboo topics. Have these conversations outside the bedroom to make your relationship more romantic.

wife & I got the Monogamy board game over lockdown

its like a sexy version of snakes & ladders/ monopoly , gets progressively heavier, but starts out quite tame. Don't be afraid to adapt the rules to suit yourselves.
a good way to explore each others fantasies.