Post-childbirth orgasms are rubbish :(

[Threesmycrowd]

I can still, just about, orgasm since having children but it's rubbish. It's probably less than half as good as how it felt before delivering 2 babies vaginally. I've read some similar threads on here but all from women with newborns - my second baby is 18 months old and sex is still rubbish compared to before. Anyone relate? Or ideally anyone have a "success story" of something similar! I really hope this isn't it for life :(

I also never get wet any more. When I was bfing I put that down to hormones and used lube but I stopped bf 6 months ago and it hasn't improved.

I think a small part of this is due to having young children and all the tiredness/lack of freedom making sex less impulsive/adventurous but it does feel like in addition to that something has changed in my body and how it's able to respond :( feeling really low about the whole thing tbh.

I think it's a good chance it's to do with tiredness and prioritising your children. I can't comment on vaginal birth as all my children were born by c section but I remember my sex drive really went down after my last baby for a few months, which is unusual for me. I was still having sex with my husband but I noticed I wasn't getting the desire to masturbate or having sexual thoughts as much. My youngest had a few problems and I remember feeling very overwhelmed so that took up all my mental energy. But it improved over time when I was getting more sleep and in more of a routine with my four. I think masturbation helps as it gets right to the source of what turns you on mentally. You might find the more you orgasm, the more you crave an orgasm and when you build on that, you can then extend it to intercourse.

Thanks it might be. Its a bit worrying that everybody seems to be "for a few months" like you! I'm not far off two years. And didn't have this problem after my first. And both my kids are "easy" in the sense of quite placid, no health worries, etc.

I had the same experience I couldn't orgasm hardly or get wet at all. My child is 3.5 and I feel it's just come back
All of a sudden! I think when the kids are so young it's your body telling you your not ready to be fertile again because
Your exhausted etc! Now my kid sleeps more etc it's all back to normal and I'm sure will be same for you

I am pp 2nd child 3 mths , didn't have any issues like this with my first one, but have noticed with my 2nd I don't know if I have orgasmed or not.. very anticlimactic, and very frustrating, hoping this does improve as time goes on !