How long for PIV sex to feel good after a baby (c-section) and breastfeeding.

[Worriedmale]

Hi All,

I always make sure my partner has the big O before I do but she says PIV sex just doesn't feel nice for her anymore which it used to before we had children. (Eldest is 2) we always have to use plenty of lube which we didn't before I'm wondering if it's a sign her hormones still at her "natural" level 2 years on.

How long did it take for PIV sex to become enjoyable after having a baby (C-Section) and breastfeeding?

Thanks

How old is the youngest?

I had a C section and breastfed for three years. I wanted to have sex again within four months or so but we didn’t actually do it until just days short of our baby’s first birthday. It was fine. A bit awkward, but felt fine.

It might be that she’s just struggling to get into it if she’s looking after very young children.

Straight away, but my sex drive has always been high.

My youngest was almost four before I could consider it again.

My youngest is now 18 months, and my partners had 1 orgasm from PIV since she was born, she used to cum pretty much every time, we've tried lube, diff toys , massage etc etc and i think a lot of it could be a mental block as well as possible issues from c section scarring and loss of desire etc, its tough but i suppose as long as you are both making an effort you just need to keep trying or poss ask a doc

Jeez, 4 years. That's unusual and suggests other issues, besides the birth.

@Chellybelle no dear, it suggests twins and having four children under five.

Breastfeeding massively affected my enjoyment levels tbh but that’s hormones and doesn’t affect everyone the same way. We resumed piv carefully 12 weeks after c section, that is major surgery and also quite psychologically difficult (for me, two previous vaginal births before, first section) plus being knackered generally isn’t a turn on for women. Can I ask how old your partner is? That could be a factor. Does she have any body hang ups after having a baby? This could affect her enjoyment, worrying about her tummy looking different etc won’t help her have an orgasm. Without being too graphic can you satisfy her in other ways successfully, without piv? If yes I’d crack on with that, as if there’s any pressure about piv O’s resuming that will be a vicious circle for her and make it even harder for her to come that way.