No sex drive

[3crazyboys]

I write this as I’m crying on my sofa after another argument with my husband

we have been together 15 years , 3 children , we both work
the thing is I have completely lost my libido I would say last 6 months , I have no interest
I used to have high sex drive , would even have times on my own when I would self pleasure . But now I don’t even want to do that , it doesn’t bother me and I feel quite happy to not have sex

but it’s causing huge issues between us now which I get
the thought of doing it makes me so akward , I feel I’m doing it just for the sake of it and just want it to be over
I love my husband and our life but I’m getting to the point where I’m thinking maybe sex just isant for me anymore , and he would be better off with someone else

I feel so lost I dunno what to do

What happened 6 months ago? Anything significant?

how old are you? Could it be peri related?

have tou spoken to your gp?

I’m 37
no haven’t spoken to my doctor
nothin specifically happened I just feel just slowly gone

You should speak to your doctor about it, to see if anything can be done to help, if that’s what you want. It’s a bit unfair on your husband, who I assume is the same/similar age, to just decide for him that he no longer has a sex life.

It’s difficult because it’s hard to compromise on this situation. You cant have sex you don’t want but at the same time, you can’t expect your husband to just accept it as he clearly still wants to.

See a GP for the sake of your marriage.

Honestly, see the GP and ask then to check bloods etc. If you dont know the reason, it is worth seeing if it is an easy fix.

There could be something medical (GP, as earlier replies say, is a good idea), but you could also use couples counselling etc. It's important your DH understands how you feel - you do not have to go through those thoughts alone!
Through your GP (or at least with their advice...) you may be able to access some psychological help. It's limited but better than nothing...