Lasting Longer

[Manvice]

I want to last longer in bed and have some pills to assist. They must be taken 2-3 hours before sex.

My wife hasn’t mentioned anything and we’ve never discussed this.

So do I just crack on, and on occasion waste the tablets when we end up not having sex, or do I tell her I think it’s an issue and I’ve done something about it, but I need a heads up if sex is on the cards?

I’m embarrassed by the situation, it’s all now in my head which is the last thing I need, and I hope to have it solved soon, but clearly I can’t take the pills every day on the off chance of sex (cost and side effects).

I also don’t know if she sees it as an issue, and even if she does, whether this would make it more front and centre moving forwards, which I absolutely do not want.

Thought’s welcome.

It sounds like you and your wife need to talk.
Yes, to a level you're "dealing with it" - and she'll appreciate the fact you're working to remain sexually active with her. But if you don't have some good conversations, as well as the practical issues of cost / side effect, it will leave a lot of unease sooner or later.
So you need to tell her about this, and you need to involve her into your mutual sexual health. Maybe the practical result will be, as you say, that you'll plan about sex, knowing hours before. Maybe it will be completely different, like setting aside more time (when you two can) which can also be a good thing? And I'm sure the conversation can go very different ways, not all of it easy, but all better than secretly taking pills, even from the best of intentions.

I didn't pay enough attention to the "last longer" specific bit. There is such a thing as Kegel exercises... If you haven't, do them!

Thanks for the balanced response. Yes I do those exercises and verbally exercise a lot. Just been a little stressed lately which has definitely had an impact on me.