Friends with benefits

[Isanyonereallyanonymous]

Had the best Fwb set up a few years ago, we got on well, would hang out together but no romantic connection, see each other a few times a week/fortnight, no pressure.
How do I find something similar again now, are there apps/sites best for this?
Not in a place to date, one night stands aren’t for me, not sure if I’m looking for the impossible tbh.

I have a couple of FWB who I meet occasionally, one I met on Feeld and one at my kink club. I'm poly and generally use Feeld for all the types of relationships I have (FWB, dating and kink relationships), people are there for alternative relationships of all sorts.
I'm interested that you said a guy on Fab wants to date - I'd given up on Fab as I could only find guys who wanted a quick shag, something more long term is more for me

"Hey. Sorry to back out but I've had a change of heart so won't make it on Friday. Hope you find what you're looking for on here. x"

Then block and hide! 🤣

Thanks both, message sent. Deffo the right choice!

I met my last fwb on Fab, there are a few genuine guys on the if you'd can be bothered to wade through. We both only wanted an fwb set up, 5 years on, we live together, have a newborn & have just got engaged 🤣 be careful!

Ha. What do you say when people ask how you met?

"Oh, we met on fabswingers, I could not help but be impressed by his butt plug collection and interest in watersports"

@TheCadoganArms we just say we met online.
No unusual kinks here, was just a good site for the place we were both in at the time!

😂
I have previously been successful in keeping my fwb entirely emotionally unattached, but I guess never say never. Definitley not the aim but it would be highly ironic given how unsuccessful my attempts at more traditional dating have been 😂

Did get sort of catfished on a meet on Wednesday - note to self if it seems too good to be true it probably is. No harm done thankfully, but will reverse search images before I meet, not after in future, saves a wasted evening 🫣 I would have said I am fairly savvy on this stuff too so bit cross I didn’t clock beforehand but have learnt from it and have reported to fab, not sure they’ll do anything but fingers crossed.

@Isanyonereallyanonymous we'd both been successful at no feels until then 🤣 if it's right, it's right I guess!

Argh that's really irritating! I met a guy once who was telling me he'd been chatting to someone, arranged to meet up with her, she'd been sending him pics of her (in his words) slimmer, much better looking friend, but she expected him to stay for coffee once he turned up! What goes through some people's minds I'll never know!

I met my last FWB on Fab and my very new one there. Agree you have to wade through a lot of rubbish. It kills a few hours though - I'll only message on there for a week or so and then move WA - that tends to get rid of the ones who aren't single. I'll then have a chat on the phone just to see if we can have a decent conversation. If ok, a couple of social meets before taking things further - both FWB from there are really lovely men

Did you end up finding anywhere decent? I too have been wanting exactly the same thing but never any luck. Maybe it's tougher for guys though.

I think any dating app can be used to find a FWB - I found both of my previous FWB on "ordinary" dating apps. Just be clear what you are looking for, and I'm sure that you will be spoiled for choice!

Unfortunately, there are loads of cheats, liars, creeps & wierdos out there... The block button is your friend! 🙂And maybe a short message to that guy to say you aren't feeling it?

Have fun!

My posts on this thread were NOT an open invite to message me (no matter how politely) to see if I’d be interested 🤦‍♀️

fwiw, after wising up a little, I have had some wonderful meets courtesy of fab and had fun exploring different things over summer, so I have what I need :)

Excellent news!