Unable to cum / orgasm

[NSA87]

I’ve recently got into a new relationship, everything is great and all the qualities I’ve ever dreamt of, but … I don’t cum.

we have communicated how we like it etc and foreplay, positions etc. It’s exactly how I prefer it yet I find it SO HARD to get “there” I have no idea why and everything else is there ie I fancy the pants off him, he has a lovely penis, he does everything that has worked for me before, so I’m stumped and it’s FRUSTRAING!

Sorry op, but hate when people spell it like that 😬

OP you might be better to get this moved to the Sex topic?

Are you thinking about it too much? Instead of waiting for it to happen you're willing it to.

Urgh me too - why not say climax?

Sounds like you are finding it hard to relax with him. Maybe something unconsciously isn’t happy or is a bit worried about him?

Agree with that spelling making me cringe!

I think because it didn’t happen the first few times you are now over thinking it which makes it hard to relax and get there.

@honeyandfizz Climax is terrible! I'd prefer cum! 🤣

This ^^ sounds like maybe you need to relax and not concentrate?

Who gives a toss how people word it man? Dry up

Can I ask how old you are op? I've very recently started to have this problem too with my partner and even alone during masturbation I just cannot get there like I always have done. on the very rare occasion i do orgasm its just not the same or as intense as it used to be. I'm 46 and wondering if it is a peri menopausal thing? my clitoris just doesn't seem as responsive to touch as it once was. I agree it's very frustrating.

Seriously?

Someone posts a problem which is really concerning them and all you have to contribute is the way their acceptable and widely used phrase makes you feel?

Grow up. It's not about you and how a word makes you feel. Either offer help or butt out.

I'd agree with @MRSMTO too @NSA87 It sounds to me like your in you're head too much.

I was deeply infatuated with a previous partner, adored everything about him, but i just could not cum. He was doing everything right, but things didn't click.

It took about 3 months for me to move past "I'm so excited that we're doing this" in my head to relaxing into enjoying myself with him and finally orgasm. I don't know what timescale you've already been together or having sex, but does this sound familiar? If it does, then enjoy how he's making your body feel, rather than what you hope will happen next. Give it time to settle.

i think your putting pressure on yourself. Tell him it’s amazing and do tell him you love his penis but you take a while to let yourself go with a new guy.

focus on the journey and not the destination and it will happen. You’re a team in this remember !!