He can't just take no for an answer

[anxhappy]

Is it just my DP???

When partner asks can we have s*x and I say no, he can't be just be like okay, he'll ask again repeatedly until he just falls asleep in a bad mood. We have sex sometimes once a week sometimes 5x a week just depends, sometimes I feel too tired and I'm really not in the mood and he just moans about it , he constantly asks why & then I'll explain but he doesn't get it he'll still beg and then it sometimes turns into an argument.

Tonight he asked and I didn't want to because I felt tired AND I'm taking a break from birth control (due to health reasons) and I'm currently ovulating & explained to him I don't want to risk him pulling out when today is my highest chance of falling pregnant. he didn't care about my reasoning he STILL asked over n over again , he also kept repeatedly asking for a bl*wjob since we can't have sex, I said no because I just want to go to sleep. it resulted in him turning away from me , told me he wasn't annoyed but acted very annoyed n then just fell asleep.

I really don't understand why he can't just say okay I understand and move on instead of begging me.

He also makes me feel awful by saying things like "I shouldn't have to beg my girlfriend for sex" or "my mates don't have to beg their girlfriend, their girlfriends actually want to do it"

He acts as if he never gets it once I say no. We literally have sex like I said it's different every week/month but at the LEAST we do it 8 times a month.

AIBU? He's sleeping now but I'm awake annoyed ..

He’s a manipulative sex pest. I’d tell him he’s made himself very unattractive and dump him.

Why are you even with this man?

Well I’m afraid if he was begging for sex after saying no or being coercive then I would reassess the relationship. It would also put me off having sex with him ever again, juts because you’re in a relationship that doesn't mean he is entitled to sex whenever he wants.

Op, he should not harass you like this. Does he have any redeeming qualities?

Please reconsider your future with this sulky, selfish man.

@anxhappy Firstly I'm sorry you are in this position. It sounds like to me you need to talk together (perhaps outside your day to day might help) and he needs to engage his brain, stand up to being a grown man and you both working on the communication that goes on between you (as it's your relationship).

Only you can assess your overall situation but as a man who has in the past and still occasionally is a stupid dumbass it really can change but only you can decide whether you want that and then go ahead and help make it happen.

Good luck and report back!!

Bin this horrible sex pest. It’s not worth trying to change him when he’s so selfish and uncaring. The manipulative tactics he’s using by telling you about his mates girlfriends is disgusting. He’s vile and you deserve better.

I think his behaviour is unacceptable OP.

It sounds like you need to assess whether you want to stay in a relationship with a man who tramples over your boundaries like this.

It sounds like to me you need to talk together

How many more times does the OP need to say 'no' though? She's already explained the current situation (along with a genuine fear of pregnancy).

He's simply not listening. He's thinking only of his own pleasure - and the manipulative comments about other men's sex with their partners are truly horrible.

Selfish as well as a pest.

.......and he needs to engage his brain, stand up to being a grown man and you both working on the communication that goes on between you (as it's your relationship)

No.

He needs to stop demanding sex when the OP says no.

This isn't a breakdown in communication. This is an entitled man refusing to accept a woman's response to his demands, especially when she's ovulating and not on contraception.

It's vile that he mentions other couples, as well.