Well, I am cringing writing this but as I cringe about it more irl I thought it's about time I tried to address this and would appreciate your thoughts.
I was with my ex-dh for 27 years, split 2 years ago and have now found someone new. Ex-dh and I always had issues within our sex life. Well, the first few younger years were good, as I can see now, led by me. It dwindled over time and included several hurtful episodes where he'd say things like my vagina was too big, I got too wet, I was a useless kisser. I don't know if this was designed to stop my advances, as in later years he admitted to be being asexual. That marked the end of our marriage (after me trying to limp on for a fair while). My new partner is quite the opposite and nothing but complimentary. The sex is amazing and we can be, and are very open with each other. He assures me that he finds me attractive and enjoys the sex, that I'm not too big and there's no such thing as too wet in his opinion! However the doubts over my kissing abilities still haunt me. To the point that I only kiss with lips. Before I met my ex-dh I enjoyed French kissing guys very much, and I long to be able to enjoy this with my current partner. I just get too in my own head. Where do I even start to put this right? What if I am bad at it? It'll be so cringey to ask for feedback!! Oh help!!!