Single/no sex - I'm missing out as it's either disappointing or nothing

[Realdeal1]

Haven't had sex in 2 years now. Im in my 40s. I'd love a decent boyfriend but haven't met anyone so I'm worried my years are passing just waiting for someone.

I'm posting on the sex forum for advice because I used to enjoy a real fascination with sex/voyeurism at sex clubs where I would have sex with my then on/off partner but watch others/they would touch me. I havent felt safe enough to go anywhere alone again since we split. I tried meeting a guy from Fab but it felt disappointing because he was attractive but expected me to do everything so we didn't end up having intercourse and I quickly realised why no one saw him regularly. That put me off casual if im honest.

I always placed a lot of emphasis on having a committed relationship but I feel like my time is really passing me by.

There are plenty of single women that go to clubs by themselves. I've read many threads that the majority have felt safe, found it easy to chat to folk and felt very much empowered and in control of things.

You've been before so you are halfway there. Clubs are not a complete mystery to you.

Go for it!

Join Killing Kittens, then as a single woman, if and when you sign up for a party, you can join the chat, meet up with others for a drink before the party and not have to go alone.

They also do socials. I'm going to my first social in a few weeks.

I haven't been to a party yet but that's my plan as a single woman.

In a similar situation as a guy. It's rubbish, but all you can do is to go to parties, socialise, chill, keep expectations low, and take opportunities if and when they arise. Try and not climb the walls.