A man has never made me....

[MissDisappointed]

(Big ole name change for this one.)

---- Orgasm and I think I know why!

I can run through all my exes that thought my clitoris was a chew toy and the G spot should be gone at like a Saxon with a battering ram and trust me, neither were in any way pleasurable.

The last specifically boasted how he had man a woman cum by doing this one thing and quite frankly, I would have rather been playing sudoku and I hate sudoku.

I have always had to finish myself off which I can honestly say has 99/100 been the highlight of any experience with my exes.

Now, I don't think it's all the man's fault because I'm pretty sure I am gay or at the very least bi, which is why I've never got pleasure out of being with a man. However, being at my stage in life and only realising in the last few years that being with men makes me want to puke, I have zero experience with a woman and don't know where to start.

My family all know my sexuality so I am not worried about being with a woman, but it's difficult.

I have a really good male friend who would 'happily' be with me intimately but I've managed to avoid it for 2 years now. If I was straight surely not having any sexual contact I would be gagging for it?

My last partner definitely clarified that sex with a man wasn't good for me. He was way too pushy and got stroppy if I didn't do what he wanted, which I didn't want to do because now I realise I wasn't attracted to him sexually.

This is more of a thinking out loud post, but opinions are welcome.

I can definitely relate to the Saxon with a battering ram 😂

I think we can all relate to the Saxon battering ram.

It’s so frustrating that men don’t put more time and effort into improving their techniques. I’ve had sex with 6 men in my time and two of them made me orgasm.

Definitely 😂

I’ve only ever slept with my husband and although it’s not always perfect, and he can be a bit over zealous at times, he always makes sure I have an orgasm.

OP, l feel you may be mixing several unrelated issues here. Sadly, there are plenty of women who have not climaxed with a man, this is often due to the man in question not understanding how a woman “works”. That in itself does not make you lesbian or even bi, it may just be bad lovers; l still use old fashioned terminology.

Are you attracted to women?

You refer to this stage in your life, l don’t know how old you are, but l was in my 30s (l’m in my 40s now) before l discovered my bi side.

I have always believed, but happy to be corrected, that it is all about clitoral stumulation as part of foreplay & during PIV? Hammering away like a jackhammer doesn't really offer pleasure to either party, but it is good to mix some fast pumping with some slow stuff?

Have you ever been attracted to a specific woman?

Not particularly wanting sex with men doesn't necessarily mean you want women. Though it's not unusual just not to notice your attraction to women.

Men improve their technique with women who have the confidence to say when the level and way of stimulation is right, wrong or perfect. Ladies are all different in what they prefer and even intimacy with the same partner can require varying levels of vigour, pace and touch depending on the mood.
Speak up and suggest improvements and pass on compliments when the stars align.
Your partner will never improve without feedback.