My husband has been open about suffering from ED and we can on occasion go 5-6 months without sex, which is really difficult. I’m a sexual person and struggle with this, I’d like sex at least twice a week. If we do have sex it’s just the once and then another waiting game of months before it happens again ( the sex is always really good when it does happen). We talk a lot about it, although I’m usually the one to bring it up and he tells me that he’s tired and doesn’t feel great a lot of the time and that from a young age he started to have issues, he does take viagra to help with this. I try and be supportive as I know he feels ashamed, but it’s now starting to affect how I feel towards him, I watch porn occasionally to compensate for the lack of intimacy (I don’t think he’s aware of this), I just feel like I should give up on trying with him. He tells me he fancies me and wants to have sex, but is too tired. However, other day I borrowed his phone and noticed that in his recent search history he had gone on porn sites. I don’t know what to do, or how to approach him about this. He struggles to be intimate with me, but is watching porn, so obviously needs a release. Can anyone advise please? Thank you