Scar tissue after tearing

[Maxymoo1]

So I'm 4 months postpartum after a 3rd degree tear. I'm very lucky in that I only have a few minor complaints which seem to be improving all the time, I was stitched up immediately in surgery and I could just tell from the start that it was done very well. Sex the couple of times I've tried is not painful at all.

When I first looked (risky, I know) I was actually really happy, that annoying lump I had following the birth of DS1 was gone! Turns out, it was scar tissue, so once the tear had healed I had a new lump which is bigger.

I know this might sound really stupid to some people but I need to get this out. I'm really self conscious of this lump/s because it eclipses 'the hole', so I feel broken and no longer normal. My husband thinks I've completely lost the plot, he's incredible and ultra supportive.

Please go easy on me with this one but I'm also ready to hear if I have completely gone mad.

Its never the same but there are options.

Wait a bit as 4 months is too soon. But you can see your gp, or I went private as I had insurance and there was a bit of pain/discomfort so they paid for a repair.

Thanks for replying Costumier, can I ask, did your surgery help with any cosmetic issues you might have said such as scar tissue? I don't have any pain or discomfort, it's purely cosmetic really. Sounds so vain but it really wouldn't bother me if it wasn't so much scar tissue

Your body won’t be “fully healed” until about 18 months post partum. Trust that your body knows what it’s doing and will heal itself.

You can do perineal massage to support healing (I used grape oil which was recommended by my midwife) and you can buy an egg for your pelvic floor which might support healing.

If you’re done having children, cosmetic surgery is always an option just don’t get pregnant again!

@Maxymoo1 not connected but might hopefully help. I had a major operation on my elbow about ten years ago and the scar was initially 10 inches long and quite pronounced. I was recommended a dressing that contained silver which I used for about three months and the scar shrank down to a coupld of inches and was really pretty smooth...not sure if that will work for you but might be worth speaking to your GP or gynae consultant to see if anything like that might be useful.

Good luck!!