How to tease a guy? What do you find a turn on?!

Loulouuuu · 2023-12-11T21:18:47+00:00

Hi everyone so this guy I’m seeing really does get me super turned on by how much of a tease he is, and the things he says to me about what he wants to do to me etc.. fabulous! But what I want to know is how do I tease him?! I feel like I’ve said the odd thing that’s got him going but compared to him I feel kinda uselsss… I want to excite him for once you know?! And I don’t mean just pleasure him I mean like make the lead up experience enjoyable? im planning on wearing really sexy underwear when I next see him and not mentioning it prior to see his reaction. But does being a tease do it for guys? What do you find a turn on like if you’re both just chilling together what can I do to get him thinking or get him going but it’s only enough to frustrate him a little bit? Does that make sense? and then during sex what do you find turns you on the most? I know all guys are different but just looking for opinions to give me ideas! thank you

Rieslinger · 12/12/2023 11:36

Lucky guy!

Not sure if these will work for your fella...but see if they give you any ideas..

For me my DW has a look she gives me sometimes...it's kinda like a half smile with slightly closed eyelids that I read as I'm thinking naughty things and you are definitely involved. Also whilst my DW isn't a fan of showing much in the cleavage department she knows when she does and makes a kinda obvious not obvious way of letting me see it also is a huge turn on.

If we are out on a date and my DW has put on some of her sexy underwear under normal clothes then that does the trick for me too. She also 'accidentally' nudges or touches her boob on me whilst we are just living life...another great one for me.

My DW doesn't really talk much to tease so can't really help there, hopefully others might have some ideas.

Good luck and report back!!

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Loulouuuu · 12/12/2023 13:45

@Rieslinger thank you for your reply. It’s much appreciated! And actually settled my mind a lot actually that subtle hints guys also like! I feel pretty confident I can give him a certain look so he knows what is on my mind. Just hoping the underwear doesn’t come across as a bit keen as it’s still early days. Although.. surely he would like it right? Who knows! we shall see.

I know guys love confidence so I’m hoping if I’m feeling good about myself the confidence will be there and the rest will come naturally and not be completely vanilla!

thanks for your advice :) will report back!!

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PlusMinusDividedBy · 12/12/2023 14:32

OP you really do sound special! Lucky guy!

I think a lot of sex really is all in the mind. And men are easily visually stimulated! I know I am for sure. My wife has always worn something sexy for sex. It definitely does the trick for me and she enjoys it as foreplay.

Ultimately though there is nothing more sexy than a confident and enthusiastic woman. I love of bit of sexting. Me and my wife used to do this all day long at work and it really did increase the tension a lot.

I loved to ask what she was wearing underneath - a little thrill to know that and no one else did. Being told 'I'm wearing the white lacy set today' really did the trick. But also a woman taking the lead and being in control is very hot as well.

Does not have to be leather, and whips etc - I just mean it's nice to see that my wife wants me sexually. Makes me feel loved and adored as well.

As to what to do to get him going well a bit of talking abou sex works 'hey I just cant stop thinking about when you did X to me - or I really want to try Y with you it's so hot' and then if she touches me gently then that's a nice signal to stop watching the movie as well.

Also LOVE a flash of underwear during the day as well.

acpk55 · 12/12/2023 19:17

tend to agree with @PlusMinusDividedBy its more about the build up and anticipation, some sexting works well

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Loulouuuu · 12/12/2023 19:21

@PlusMinusDividedBy @acpk55 thanks guys! We have been sexting a lot.. but I feel his game is sooo much stronger than mine. what sort of things do guys like to hear over text that’s a turn on?!

thank you @PlusMinusDividedBy for your answer - again, really has put my mind at ease that it doesn’t have to be crazy stuff and these small attention to detail stuff guys like too! Appreciate it so much thank you.

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Hijinks75 · 12/12/2023 19:24

DW will sometimes suggest I find something to watch on tv, definite turn on as I know she wants to watch something with sex in and what she wants after

JoanMacIntosh · 12/12/2023 20:10

Sending flirty messages and being responsive to their wants and needs is good but having your own ideas and desires I think is probably more important to keep them engaged.

I like sending suggestive photos but would only send nudes/explicit videos in a committed relationship (with a ring on my finger)

No one on here can tell you what to say to your DP to turn him on, you know what gets him going so just play up to that. If he’s better at sexting than you are just tell him that it sounds like something you’d like to do/try. He’ll be very excited to see you.

KeepTellingYourself · 12/12/2023 21:56

You should talk to your partner. What turns one on doesn’t work for others, so asking for exact details from others won’t help.

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Loulouuuu · 12/12/2023 22:31

@KeepTellingYourself fully aware. Thanks.
it’s nice to hear others opinions and experiences, which I highlighted I’m aware everyone is different already but thanks for your feedback.

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WhereHasAllTheLoveGone · 12/12/2023 22:40

Hi Op confidence is sexy and it sounds like you’re not doing too bad.

If you want ideas this site has loads. It’s written by a guy helping women to seduce men. It’s probably not everyone’s cup of tea but it’s free and comprehensive. Hope you find something to take you game to the next level!!

https://badgirlsbible.com/dirty-talk-phrases

73 Sexy Dirty Talk Phrases To Make Your Man Crazy Horny!

Use these 73 filthy dirty sex talk phrases to make him sexually obsessed with you. Use them tonight to make sex super hot and keep him addicted.

https://badgirlsbible.com/dirty-talk-phrases

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IalsoWantToHaveSex · 13/12/2023 08:06

Maybe go commando and mention it to him midway through your date.

Or on certain days, don't text him immediately and then later on tell him you were busy shaving.

PinotPony · 14/12/2023 08:52

I did a workshop on talking dirty.. here are my notes...

Prep - how do they want themselves / their genitalia to be referred to? Ask!
Dirty talk without declaration - just because you say it, doesn't mean you are intending to do it, can just be fantasy.
Keep it open - "What if I...?", "Maybe I'll do..,"
Be non-specific so your person can write their own adventure - "I'm going to run my tongue where you want it most"
Choices - "do you want me to do X or Y?"
Questions -"tell me about a time when you.... how did it feel?"
Recount a scene - "remember when we..,?"
Talk about what you know / your desires - "I'd like to do XYZ to you"
Pauses - don't fill the silence - build anticipation
Noises - little purrs, sighs, moans, laughter (fun!)
Tone of voice- don't have to whisper but speak calmly and with conviction
Listen to erotica - get ideas!
Create your own audio erotica - listen back to it
Talk to yourself - practice - you know what arouses you!

Hope that gives you some tips and ideas 😁

WhereHasAllTheLoveGone · 14/12/2023 11:34

Hi @PinotPony

have you ever seen the site I linked would be interested what you thought in comparison to the work shop you attended . Not detail just it good/ok or it’s pants. I’ve used some of the blokes tips which have really worked with my partner.

VanityDiesHard · 14/12/2023 15:54

WhereHasAllTheLoveGone · 12/12/2023 22:40

Hi Op confidence is sexy and it sounds like you’re not doing too bad.

If you want ideas this site has loads. It’s written by a guy helping women to seduce men. It’s probably not everyone’s cup of tea but it’s free and comprehensive. Hope you find something to take you game to the next level!!

https://badgirlsbible.com/dirty-talk-phrases

OMG those are all so cringe.

WhereHasAllTheLoveGone · 14/12/2023 16:39

Ha! @VanityDiesHard

I suppose that’s what I meant about not being everyone’s cup of tea. 😂

My thoughts were that there are so many there (about 5 lists) the there’s possibly something that may cause a flutter or at least identify what you don’t like 👎

DixonD · 14/12/2023 19:07

It will be much easier once you get to know him properly. And don’t copy stuff you’ve read on the internet unless it gets you going. If it’s genuine, you’ll have more passion and it won’t feel awkward or embarrassing. It will get easier the more you do it and when you find out what he likes/doesn’t like.

Have fun!

PinotPony · 14/12/2023 21:45

WhereHasAllTheLoveGone · 14/12/2023 11:34

Hi @PinotPony

have you ever seen the site I linked would be interested what you thought in comparison to the work shop you attended . Not detail just it good/ok or it’s pants. I’ve used some of the blokes tips which have really worked with my partner.

I don't much care for it. Giving a list of stock phrases isn't much help to anyone, without any appreciation for individual personalities.

I could say the same phrase to two different partners and get entirely different reactions. It's lazy to assume all guys want you to beg for their huge cock. 🤷‍♀️

WhereHasAllTheLoveGone · 15/12/2023 10:36

@PinotPony

Thanks I appreciate you opinion. Which is not easy to get in real life. I’ve been listening to some female created content recently and there are aspects which are certainly different which is why I wondered about this list as it’s a little porny but is written by a man.

I agree with you if you can get it, direct feedback from the person you’re actually having sex is so much better and easier. All to many times though either partner doesn’t ask for what they really want or need. Which is why I personally find confidence so hot.

Attending a workshop sounds good from the list you posted .I’ll look out for one . especially if there is one for men as general expectation is we’re all good at it or that we won’t admit we’re not!!

PinotPony · 15/12/2023 12:19

WhereHasAllTheLoveGone · 15/12/2023 10:36

@PinotPony

Thanks I appreciate you opinion. Which is not easy to get in real life. I’ve been listening to some female created content recently and there are aspects which are certainly different which is why I wondered about this list as it’s a little porny but is written by a man.

I agree with you if you can get it, direct feedback from the person you’re actually having sex is so much better and easier. All to many times though either partner doesn’t ask for what they really want or need. Which is why I personally find confidence so hot.

Attending a workshop sounds good from the list you posted .I’ll look out for one . especially if there is one for men as general expectation is we’re all good at it or that we won’t admit we’re not!!

If I recall, it was a killing kittens workshop run by Lola Jean. Worth keeping an eye out as they frequently run similar events online or in person.