I’ve never had sex before - I’m 33

[whywouldshewantme]

Various reasons.

Not a troll, I’ve been on here ten years plus.

Now looks like it’s on the cards (with a female friend, I’m also female).

I’m slightly panicking. I’ve never even kissed anyone, let alone anything further.

I do like her and I know she likes me, but I think she’s looking more for FWB/‘trying things out’ and I’m a bit unsure.

I’m fat (properly fat) and I don’t even know where we’d start or what to do. My self esteem isn’t that amazing.

Helpfully she’s never had sex with a woman either, so I guess we’d both be a bit re to it but I don’t want to screw this up.

Just see where it goes! Start with kissing, then touching and if you fancy each other it will flow. Enjoy!

To be honest, you would probably be better off if she has experienced sex before. Either way, what you say, providing you are on the same page with your emotions it’s time to get rockin’ and a rollin’ and feel the touch of another.

l would suggest just hold her and see where it goes from there. It’s all about passion.

It's definitely easier with a woman! There's less expectation to look or act a certain way during sex and the definition of what counts as sex is so much broader! Forgot what you think sex should be like based on m/f sex... it doesn't have to end in penetration or one person having a show stopper climax.

Relax, enjoy all the build up. Show her what you enjoy doing when you masturbate, ask her to show you what she likes. Talk loads and enjoy the experience!

I too, was a 33 year old virgin whom had never properly kissed anyone, and fat!
Me and my partner got together in 2020 when i was 31, but due to meds he was on, had no sex drive, and just wasnt good at initiating things like kisses, and as i never had, i didn't have the guts, so it was quick lip pecks really.
Until 3 months ago, when i jokingly suggested i give him oral whilst we were texting, and he said he'd been waiting for me to be ready as he knows many women (like his ex) don't like it.
Next time i went over (we both live with parents due to health issues so i visit/stay over once a week) he said he was ready to make things sexual. We didnt have full sex for a few visits, but we do now, and he properly kisses me during too. I was so nervous, but it is honestly nothing to worry about, if you have a close emotional relationship with trust and respect, it will go just fine, and you'll just laugh together at any awkwardness.