It’s taken 25yrs but I’ve realised my husband and I could really do with some way of communicating, ideally fairly early in an evening, that one of us has no interest in sex that night, so that the other person can tailor their expectations to suit. You know, no blame, no shame, no hard feelings etc.
Yes yes I know saying the actual words is the sensible, grown up way to do it but that’s far too confrontational for us. Would much rather have a pass phrase to slip into conversation that makes us laugh as much as it makes the shape of the evening to come clear.
Any suggestions most appreciated, thanks.