NC for this.
My sex drive has completely disappeared over the past year or so. Not on hormonal contraceptives, not peri menopausal, no thyroid issues (recently tested for all of these), late 30s.
This has happened to me before- about 15 years ago when I was with my ex. We broke up after a long sexless relationship and when I was single after we broke up I loved sex- had it a lot, was very adventurous, Was like the light had been switched on and I always put it down to my not very nice ex as the reason for it drying up before.
Have been with my now PP for 5 years and as before, sex has dried up. We have spoken about it in the past and how we want to have more, but nothing ever happens. I know it's my fault- partner used to try but now he never does, and I don't blame him.
We've had sex about three times in 2023. I enjoyed them fine. When we first got together we were at it like rabbits and I was so grateful to have found someone I enjoyed having sex with, so I don't know what has happened.
Really feel like there's something wrong with me, and this is just what I'm always going to be like in a long term relationship. When I was single I was very horny all the time, now I barely think about sex. Might masturbate once every six months, but mainly in the night when I can't sleep as I find it helps. Never feel particularly horny and feels very functional.
I love my partner very much, he is the love of my life. I fancy him, he's very attractive. I don't know what's wrong with me.
Help!