DH low sex drive (age gap)

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Been with DH for eight years. He never initiates sex with me (I am 29 he is 45) we do have two young sons. I guess my question is, is it normal for men to lose their sex drive when they get older or is DH just not Interested in me anymore.

Could be either, or related to something else, work stress etc. Has it always been this way? You’d need to ask him really

When I've asked him he just says he's tired

My husband is the same (he’s 43) but has been this way since his late 20s. He always says he’s tired.

At your husband’s age, it’s unlikely to improve unless the reason why is only temporary, such as a stressful period at work. It’s unlikely to be anything to do with you.

As men age their testosterone levels will naturally decrease so yes, sex drive can drop , but 45 is not really all that old

what happens when you initiate sex ?

He usually declines and will say he's tired.

Sorry, but 45 really isn't old! I think you need to have a serious conversation with him about this. He may be worried about being able to perform, although I still think that 45 is young to be worried about ED.

How is everything else in your relationship? Saying he's 'tired' sounds like an excuse for something else.

Any man can worry about ED at any age, but men are absolutely bombarded with ads these days, on telly, Radio, social media, in boots, online - advice and meds are everywhere,