Ideas to orgasm and have great sex

[Floating83]

Quick backstory so you don't think im some journalist digging for something.....

Separated in Jan after partner had an affair a long time ago and we never recovered.
Sex life was never good, not sure I could let go tbh and so I rarely got any attempts at pleasuring me.
Started online dating a few months ago and met someone who is nice and I feel comfortable with - not thinking he's the love of my life or anything, just that hes cute and nice etc.
So earlier in the week we had sex (in his car 🙄, a first for me) which was quite a big thing for me having not done so in over 2 years. It was fine, I felt comfortable and confident. No regrets.
He is keen to help me orgasm which is something I can do alone but have rarely with someone else. Hoping to meet again and just thinking about what things woild be good to try from an exploration point that might help get me there with him.
My list includes some positions to try, maybe mutual self pleasure to learn from each other, watch porn together, what other suggestions could help as I am the type that gets stuck inside their own head.

Start with the basics, if you know how to orgasm by yourself, do that, or explain that and go from there

My most intense orgasms with a partner are internal ones, so might be worth him working out how to stimulate your G spot. I've noticed if I use a vibrator on my clitoris and have an orgasm or two shortly before doing things with my husband, I am way more likely to orgasm with him through either foreplay or intercourse and the ones I have will be more intense.

Take it the first time in the car you didn't orgasm ? I think you need to ditch the porn, this a fresh relationship and you should be both all over yourself exploring etc. My advice would be, communicate with him and do not be shy to guide him and show him what you like and what he needs to do.

"I am the type that gets stuck inside their own head"

Work on this! Being psychologically & physically inhibited does not work for great sex and orgasms.

Tantra is one way to slowly explore each other.

Eh? Don't try in a car.

This is a bit odd because how you orgaam isn't going to be the same as any of us.

Just take it slowly

Thanks for the tips.
Yes @Graasspp in a car, was not planned and not something I expected to do at all.
And I think that's my point is that everyone is different so there are lots of things to try so ideas of things to explore are useful.

I have a difficult relationship with my orgasm! I was exactly like you @Floating83. In the past I could orgasm very well with toys but it was v rare actually during sex and it certainly didn't happen without the help of something battery powered. With my new man we have enjoyed working around this. I have learnt to let go (my first orgasm from oral was in the back of a car as it happens!) He has learnt which buttons to press. We haven't worried about it though, and if it hasn't happened for me naturally then we use a toy because they have always been involved in our sex life. He doesn't take it personally if we need to use one to make me cum, and he likes to watch and be an extra pair of hands/mouth. So my advice to you is to take your toys with you when you see him and play with them together. If you orgasm without, then you've saved some battery power for next time!

A long build up. Sensual massage, leading to Yoni massage, before enjoying PIV.

Thanks @MovedonfromMartin he has suggested toys already so he seems comfortable to introduce them which is nice as it makes me feel like he has a confidence in himself that he doesn't see them as a replacement to him if that makes sense.

Some great tips from everyone, thank you ☺

Wank
and whatever you enjoy when wanking

Get him to do to you
and vice versa

G spot stimulation and clit stroking at the same time.