Pushy Sex Rant!

[Warrior96]

Why do men always have to be so pushy for sex? I have slipped down the stairs tonight and hurt my back and my DH still pushes for sex. He has a limit of 3 days, after 3 days he gets pushy. Most of the time I just give in so he will leave me alone. Obviously not tonight cuz of my back. Can men really not cope longer than 3 days?

That is so unfair. Surely in your condition he can go quietly into the bathroom and masturbate? Or perhaps you can masturbate him, provided of course it does not hurt you back!

Honestly I did like sex it’s just the frequency that started chipping away at me, he was extremely novice at the start so I ended up getting hurt such as rough fingering which has also made a mind block for me. Every 3 days I just can’t do it that much it makes me sore. If he didn’t push all the time and just stood back and let me breath. I have spoken to him about it before he will back off a little then he we will be right back where we started. He will complain if I wont let him get on top of me ect because I know the minute he does that he will be pressing his dick on me.

Of course men can last longer than 3 days without sex.

When you feel better, you need to address this with your 'D'H. It's not ok to make you feel like a machine that has to give in to sex every 3 days minimum.

As you've spoken to him before about this, I'd suggest counselling. His behaviour is really not ok.

I recently left my husband and this evening he’s sent me loads of messages talking about how much he misses the sex, my body (I got some flattering but explicit descriptions) and how good it was. We used to have sex about 3 or 4 times a week. Is he expecting that I’ll put the divorce off so he can get off? The entitlement is beyond me.

I’m sorry you hurt yourself. Your description of him rubbing you sounds unpleasant, is he a reasonable communicator? Can you talk to him about your needs?

I'm not suprised you don't want to have sex with him, it sounds absolutely horrendous.

That is just awful. Keep up your stength.

strength

I suspect the reasons some men are pushy for sex are not so different from the reasons some women are pushy for sex.

My exW wouldn't take No for an answer when she wanted sex, to the point where consent was questionable a couple of times. And, before I was married, a female friend, who I thought was just platonic, "accidentally" booked us a double room in a hotel rather than a twin, then got very drunk and very pushy about us having sex when I wasn't sure.

Some people just aren't very good at empathy and taking No for an answer.

Maybe time to have another conversation with him?

Erm no this is certainly not my experience. 3 days and he starts itching to have sex? He sounds awful, there’s nothing worse than a sex pest

I've got the ick already. Nothing turns me off quicker than a sex pest.

Can men really not cope longer than 3 days?

not has sex this year, so I would say it’s your man in particular,

I not really one for issuing people ultimatums but it might be time to.

I'm sorry you've hurt yourself, and he sounds very selfish and insensitive. I'd discard him personally

It’s quality not quantity, I would die if I hurt my wife during sex. Shame on pest.