Tell me about your FWB experience

[Thereasonidid]

Genuinely curious about other people's experiences of FWB. No need to answer every question, but these are the sorts of things I'm interested to find out about your FWB

Did you meet with the intention of developing FWB, or were they an existing friend?

How often was there contact?

How often was there meeting up?

Were the sex sessions longer than 30 mins?

What did you do together between having sex?

Did you sleep over?

Did you spend evenings together where you did no more than cuddle and kiss?

Did you talk about personal life issues with each other?

Did you meet their friends and family?

How long were you FWB?

Do you have a fwb? Hows that going?
I feel like I'm being interviewed by all your questions.
You go first and give some context about why you're asking all these questions.

I try to avoid answering posts on anything when there is no context, or an explanation why the questions are being asked.

Conversation, be it written or spoken, is a 2 way thing.

You just did though @StarlightLady 😜

I'm curious about other people's experiences, as I'd like to compare to mine.

I can't find articles online that give these sorts of humdrum details. I'm particularly curious around time others spend connecting with each other, in whatever form that takes.

These questions feel rather like you have started doing your GSCE homework and got a bit pervy in your thought process.

Type into Google 'FWB experiences' and you'll find lots of information.

Well you're a barrel of joy, aren't you?

Edited to say, Having a quick glance through the first 3 of those links, none of them (including the MN link) talk about how much time people spend connecting with each other.

I've always found the sex board to be less annoying and priggish than the rest of the site, more open and honest. From these responses, it seems the sex board is going the same way.

Mine was a guy I met on a night out and slept with. Bumped into him a week later and had sex again. It grew into a casual sex thing and we'd meet for sex when horny, usually drunk. He wasn't someone I'd normally date, he was a lot younger and immature, not right for me. I stopped seeing him when I got into a relationship. He wasn't really a friend as such, just someone I became friendly and sexual with. I don't think you can have a sexual relationship with friends because then you're no longer friends.

rather a lot of questions OP - questions are good but someone with such a talent for them I would wonder if they are a journalist.
Care to tell us more about yourself/your experiences?

Yes my thoughts too, as much as I could share some info about my FWBs I feel like it might end up in the press somewhere. Besides, all my FWB relationships are different from each other, it's not as though they're a consistent type of relationship

i don’t mind answering 😊

How often was there contact? Most days unless we had a spat

How often was there meeting up?
once week usually

Were the sex sessions longer than 30 mins?
that’s very specific !! Usually one then a break and then another

What did you do together between having sex?
tea and TV !

Did you sleep over?
no

Did you spend evenings together where you did no more than cuddle and kiss?
only the first date

Did you talk about personal life issues with each other?
A bit

Did you meet their friends and family?
no which did feel weird over time

How long were you FWB?
22 months

Did you meet with the intention of developing FWB, or were they an existing friend?

Work colleague.

How often was there contact?

Every day at work, usually.

How often was there meeting up?

Initially around twice per month then gradually increased to two or three times per week.

Were the sex sessions longer than 30 mins?

Usually between an hour and two hours, unless it was a brief encounter at work.

What did you do together between having sex?

We would often go out for a meal or to the cinema.

Did you sleep over?

Yes, more often than not, then we'd have sex again before going to work.

Did you spend evenings together where you did no more than cuddle and kiss?

No.

Did you talk about personal life issues with each other?

Yes. She was a great listener and I was more than happy to help her with any of her problems too.

Did you meet their friends and family?

I met a few. None of them were aware of our arrangement.

How long were you FWB?

Almost two years. I changed jobs and it just fizzled out.

Thank you for sharing @GigiAnnna @DagenhamDanny & @Thisisworsethananticpated

Interesting to hear your experiences. I got the impression a "typical" FWB arrangement had less than daily contact. Your responses are helping me compare and contrast.

This being my first FWB, it's good to know how it rolls for others. I'm his 5th long term FWB. I want to have an understanding of how things work for others, rather than just let things follow the pattern he's used to.

@Thereasonidid thank you for that, as you've answered a bit of it I feel better about answering. I currently have two partners who I'd describe as FWBs as the focus is predominantly sexual rather than romantic, but I'm poly so I'm maybe more involved with them than others might be. A was on a dating app, B was IRL and fancying him. I've been seeing A for 2 years now, B for 18 months.

Both of them are part of my social group and I socialise with them and my friends (as we're all poly then everyone knows the relationships between people). B has conservative family though and is a lot younger than me, so I keep away from them. I spend as much time having dinner, day trips, going out drinking as I do having sex, but it's not romantic so I don't class it as being a dating relationship. I'm equally happy to hang out with them and hold hands etc than have sex. Anyone I've solely met for sex and not for hanging out with I call a fuck buddy rather than an FWB, but everyone has different terms.

I don't contact any of my partners every day, but more when I just want a chat, and I don't sleep over with any of my partners except for logistical reasons (I just like my own bed! And I want to be there when the kids wake up)

I don't think there's any rules as to how you want to organise your relationship, as long as you're both on the same page. I do feel though that my FWBs are caring relationships with great friends, just maybe not as involved as I am with my dating partners.

I've had two amazing FWB in the past. One of them I saw every five or six weeks. We would spend the weekends together. Each time we saw each other it was an "event". We went to places and did things. She met my family, friends and work colleagues. I met hers. We were not exclusive and we told each other if we had seen anyone else. Without rubbing each others noses in it. We didn't message or speak much inbetween our meets. It was perfect for us both. It lasted two and a half years.

The question that I'm most curious about is whether the sex lasts more than 30min?
If sex only ever lasted less than 30min, I don't think I'd find it very satisfying. And I don't see the point of a fwb if the sex isn't bloody good.

Almost 3 years we didn’t live close so meets are sporadic , not existing friend.

contact is sporadic, but most weeks we exchange messages

we would meet every few months for a weekend, nice hotel, stay the night meals, walks etc.

sex 4 or 5 times, ( never timed it with regard to 30 mins )

koew about each other’s family but never met.

Stopped when she declared romantic feelings for me.

Thereasonidid

to be honest it was in many ways a relationship
except he was emotionally unavailable and I was physically unavailable

in the end his issues and emotional unavailability separated us

But it got me back on the horse and gave me some good moments so no regrets

Hello!

I was married for 4 years (in a relationship for 10) never had a friend with benefits.
My husband cheated on a lads holiday and I promptly left him.
After a year of getting to know myself again and swearing off men, a friend of my husband's asked me out ( no bro code as my husband cheated and carried on with the woman after I had left)

I went on a couple of dates with this guy but I was still traumatised post marriage.

we started sleeping together and have long lovely chats but that's about it.
now we meet up once or twice a week.

I'm finally ready for it to be more but he's just seeing it as fun! it's fine for now but I'll end it if I get too attached.

the sex is 10x better than with my ex and its always fun to know what my ex would think of he ever found out. even though he is with the holiday girl!

Did you meet with the intention of developing FWB, or were they an existing friend?

• nope, friend of my husband who I mildly knew

How often was there contact?
every day for two months then dwindled to 4 times a week
How often was there meeting up?
once or twice a week

Were the sex sessions longer than 30 mins?
approx 90 min to 2 hours

What did you do together between having sex?
eat dinner, catch up, watch films

Did you sleep over?
never. I'm not allowed haha. suits me to go back to my own bed to be fair.

Did you spend evenings together where you did no more than cuddle and kiss?
In the beginning yes, but now we eat, watch a film talk have sex, approx four hours

Did you talk about personal life issues with each other?
yes

Did you meet their friends and family?
well he knew mine as he was a friend/ colleague of my ex. but no new formal intros.

How long were you FWB?
almost 3 months.
knew him mildly for 10 years

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Thank you.

Met via work
lasted 5 years
met up 3/4 times a week for an hour, sometimes all day
the sex was fabulous for both of us
Always lots of talk about family & friends
never slept over
ended when the fwb moved to another town.

You're probably best to start a new thread so that people will see the title

Existing friend, fancied each other like mad, got together two years ago. We have fallen in love. Saw one another initially one night a week, slept over, fell asleep in each others arms, I've met his family.

I'm completely in love with him.

Did you meet with the intention of developing FWB, or were they an existing friend?

Work colleague

How often was there contact?

Almost daily at work. Now that he's changed jobs we keep in touch a few days per week.

How often was there meeting up?

Almost daily at work When he moved it started as every fortnight, then once per week, now sometimes twice per week.

Were the sex sessions longer than 30 mins?

1-2hrs.

What did you do together between having sex?

Chatting. Watching movies. Go out for dinner together.

Did you sleep over?

2 or 3 times.

Did you spend evenings together where you did no more than cuddle and kiss?

Nope, sex is always on the agenda!

Did you talk about personal life issues with each other?

Yes

Did you meet their friends and family?

Not intentionally. I've met his daughter once in passing before we started our arrangement.

How long were you FWB?

4 years and counting...