Do men care about loose skin?

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Interested to know if males are bothered about loose skin.

I am petit but had a twin pregnancy that left my stomach with a lot of loose skin (looks pretty wrinkly and saggy). I weight train 5x per week and have a petit muscular build (the type of gym girl you might see on IG) but the loose skin on my stomach cannot be changed.

I have only been with my partner and I’m just curious to know if guys would be turned off by this? It brothers me during sex as certain positions means it looks quite wrinkly and I get insecure. My partner says it doesn’t bother him but I wonder if he just tells me that to be nice?

On the flip side, I see many men with women that don’t fit the ‘traditional society standard’ of ‘beauty’ and they seem to be very proud of their gf (as they should be). It leads me to think that maybe I am overreacting about my loose skin, when there are beautiful women embracing their rolls and bodies and have loving partners who obviously don’t see any imperfection.

Some men won’t care, others won’t like it, thinks it’s ugly, not attractive etc. There’s not just going to be one way that men think.

I’ve had two kids and feel fortunate I don’t have loose skin, I don’t like how it looks and would probably get it removed if I had it. That would be for me though because I think it looks horrible and wouldn’t want it on me. I like to look fit and toned for me. I don’t think my partner would care and it wouldn’t be my problem if he did.

Someone should be with you because of who you are in terms of facial beauty and personality. There are very few people who have a perfect body where everything is as it was, after we've had a baby or babies.

Your partner should adore your body for bringing his children into the world. I very much doubt during sex that a bit of lose skin is on his mind!

Im in my early 50s and if I was searching for a perfect body, Id never date again!

As a pp said, there won’t be just one answer. Men like different things just like women do.

Loose, saggy skin isn’t the most attractive thing, but it’s something we accept as part of life and having babies sometimes. Being completely honest, I wouldn’t find it attractive on a partner.

If this is genuine, why are you bothered what random men think? You’ve got it due to having children with your partner. Work on your self esteem and think about why you care about whether you would turn off a random man.

Your OP is a bit strange. Like you’re advertising for PMs...a petite woman, muscular build, like a gym girl on Instagram. 🤔

After having 4 children by c section, my stomach isn't perfect like it once was. I've got a bit of loose skin and faded stretch marks. My section scar is very faint and low down so barely visible. In my first birth I had a tube coming out my belly to drain blood out and even that has left a small scar. But it's life, your body changes when you have kids and that's just what happens sometimes. My scars are because I've had a family and I won't have surgery. My husband and none of the men who I've dated have been put off, and if they have they haven't made it obvious. If they did, they wouldn't have been for me. I've never been bothered about men having completely perfect bodies either. For me, personally, if I like someone, I like them and an imperfection I might find later isn't going to change that.

I’m sorry your self esteem is low at the moment. As a stranger reading your post I can tell that you are fit and healthy, you have a loving partner and your body has carried 2 babies. All that is wonderful and should be celebrated! If wrinkles on your tummy bother you, why not try wearing a corset or basque during sex to help you take your focus away from them?

Superficial imperfections are a complete waste of time to worry about.

I have a disasterous abdomen after 2 c-sections and I used to feel very self
conscious in certain positions too. Until I realised my stomach was probably the last
thing he was looking at..🤔

Stretch-marks, our saggy bits and the effects of gravity are souvenirs of life lived. For anyone granted the intimacy to see you at your most vulnerable, doing a stocktake and pointing out any perceived shortcomings should be the last thing on their mind.

I think men are visual creatures when it comes to sex so they will notice but not everyone would be bothered by it. Some will care, some won't.

I'm a woman but my thoughts on this are that when you fancy someone and have feelings, you aren't going to be put off about something like this. I do understand that not everyone is going to like everything and we are all entitled to have our things that we find off-putting and dislike. But if you're already well into dating someone, the feelings and the attraction are all there, a bit of flappy skin isn't going to suddenly make me backtrack. If a man who enters a relationship with a woman with kids and expects her to look flawless, then I hope he also has an amazing body and a lot of good personal qualities.

It's not that important. I've never seen anyone with a perfect body anyway and I'm more focussed on behaviour and actions.