Feeld

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Experiences of Feeld please?
I know it's known for being sex focussed (which is not a bad thing), but where does it fit on the FWB, ONS, LTR spectrum? What do Feeld dates feel like compared to Bumble or OKC or Match?

People tend to state what they are looking for. Some people want a FWB or a third person in a poly relationship. Not many after just after a ONS.

I met someone from Feeld after requesting a LTR. The first date was just like any other date from a dating app.

I'm on there too. As I don't pay for it, interaction is hard.

Hard in what way?

I've been on Feeld for just over two years, I'm polyamorous and looking for long-term romantic relationships (that can involve sex and/or kink). I'm also on OkCupid (as non-monogamous so only seeing those accounts) and Tinder, Bumble and Hinge.
Feeld is my favourite ten times over any of the others. I've had lots of great connections and relationships from it. Because people are very open about what they are looking for, it's easy to find the right people compared to the vanilla sites. As it's primarily poly/kink, people tend to be quite chilled in my experience, not desperate for sex or ONS. But if you're looking for ONS or, say, a bull, people will say that and it's easy to find them.
If you're a woman, it's much easier than finding matches as a man. No point in paying for membership as a woman looking for male partners. I have over 4k likes, I just go through the stack of profiles, and I like that it's sorted by distance. Harder for men to find women, or women looking for women (I'm pan, I could count on one hand the number of connections from women). Men would benefit from membership as they can ping women and get connections easier. But my DH isn't a member, and gets loads of connections which lead to a lot of dates.
Main thing - be honest, say what you're looking for, fairly safe to put photos on too as not many people even in the poly/kink community know about it, let alone regular society.

Thanks. Am I right in thinking most users are pretty much expecting sex? Would you say it's a good place to "get back on the bicycle" - have some fun but without it feeling like a meat market? (I think I'm too old for Tinder and don't know Hinge.)
4000 likes feels more than a little off putting!

I'd say it's the opposite - I find a lot of guys I talk to on Tinder/Hinge/Bumble are there for casual sex, whereas I connect with the people on Feeld who are looking for relationships. There's a lot of asexuals on there too, so there's something for every type of person. I'm always so impressed when my likes go up 😂 not off-putting, and I don't put much work into it, it's just that I'm more likely to get a connection when I like someone.
To give you an example of the type of person I find on there, I met my new boyfriend on there and we had some great non-pushy dates, in a neutral town, and on the 3rd date it was me who suggested sex. I find a lot of good conversation with men on there.
I'm 45, I definitely don't feel too old for any of these and there's still plenty of guys out there who are interested.

I’ve just joined this site too!!!
however I joined it looking to find someone to join me and my partner… I’m glad to hear your positive experiences because I was worried that I was coming across a lot of fake accounts x

It depends if you're looking for a male or female, the fake accounts are usually the female ones (there's a lot of AI produced pictures of Asian women). Best to be specific about whether you play together or separately too - I'm generally looking for men to see solo, but sometimes it's not clear and then they say they want their partner to come too. Good luck! It's way better than Fab Swingers.

Thank you for replying!!! I’m glad to hear you’ve been successful with it!! Still struggling over here lol x

I've only dipped into Feeld a little and then ducked out again. Most of the "in your area" profiles I've seen say almost nothing. Do most people just go on photos?

I only go for the profiles who say a lot, and I don't go for the anonymous ones with no face photos. I find there are still then a lot to choose from, but as I'm a woman seeking men there are always going to be more. I do look across the whole country though, ideal is up to 30 miles for me but as I'm looking for long-term relationships I know I really need to look across the country for the right people

Feeld is great! I'm fairly vanilla and monogamous and went on there looking for sex a year after my marriage ended. I much preferred it for the personalities, politics and self-awareness of the men who were on there, and have had some fantastic dates. You can find anything on there and I found the honesty of the profiles very refreshing. I'm in a lovely relationship with man I met on Feeld a year ago, which is probably the furthest from what 'typical' users of the site envision. What worked best for me was being completely up front in terms of personality, preferences, and self-expression. I didn't use face pics and took my profile as an opportunity to be the truest, most authentic version of myself. I got lots of matches and had some really fun sexual and non-sexual exchanges via messaging, and always screened via video date from home before meeting face to face. I've found it inclusive and accepting and regardless of its kink and poly credentials. Have a go!

feeld is my favourite app. I have had some great dates and even though I haven’t had a relationship from it (not what I’m looking for) I’ve had great sex and good dates. The guys are open, honest and a lot more conscious of consent and boundaries etc. still have one person im chatting to on there we occasionally meet up, but have also opened up to each other about our personal life’s, mental health etc. it’s been so refreshing after coming out of a long term relationship

Interesting hearing this feedback. I just joined having felt bored by the usual sites and having a mid life crisis thinking how I've never experienced great sex before. Ive always been quite open minded but have had a mental block with sex. I think at the very least, I'll have some interesting chats!

I have just joined this, slightly scared!

Keep us posted about how it goes, I'm tempted by Feeld myself but a little apprehensive!

I joined, and found it even more useless tban Bumble and OKC. Whilst I've had a small number of online conversations on other OLD sites, and enough 'likes" etc on them, the field on Feeld is much smaller. So whilst it's more honest about sex, the odds of matching are proportionately smaller.
The one thing I do like is that you can browse profiles without swiping Lor R so you dont have to make instant decisions.
But they've all been fruitless for me and I'm thinking of getting back in touch with Lovehoney to see if we can make a LTR work, even if they're not exclusive.

I agree the fact you can come back to people is great, I need at least ten times of reading their bio to decide whether I say yes 🙂 it's been the best for me, but mainly as on places like Hinge and Bumble they don't generally know what being polyamorous and kinky means, but I slot right in on Feeld. Also good if you're neurodiverse.

It didn't work for me as I'm looking for a relationship (or failing that the occasional ONS) and it felt like 80% men wanted fwb, 20%married/poly also wanted fwb.
Pluses - men read profiles(!) it's the only app where they read the profile and ask about it. Men are more engaged, you get much less 'how's your day?'. Compared to my market on say bumble, my market (due to fewer women) of men are way more attractive and middle class on F and as I've said, just funnier and more engaged - to generalise.
Cons - A few times I felt treated via msg like I was an unpaid Only Fans. As in I'm happy to discuss sex but they weren't interested in my own perspective/desires, they read the site as a place where they could say what they wanted and had that entitlement that I should be open to that or why was on there. A few men were really vile, in a way I've not experienced even on tinder, really really nasty, and yes, blocked but it came out of nowhere, so I'd read it. I'm not looking for someone younger, but I think the younger guys 20s/30s on there are more likely to be fun, considerate. Whereas I have my doubts on the single ones 40s+ a few I'd met seemed pretty messed up. But that could be my picker.
And a lot - like us - are the same people on bumble/tinder, just different profiles.
Overall, I was initially excited by engagement of the men. But I soon felt emotionally worn out being there. I think @Irvina is right, screen first via phone/video. And maybe quickly, a lot just want to msg on there with no intention of meeting.

I've been a little while on Feeld, and as per previous posters, pros and cons. For pros (if I believe the men) there are less def less straight women looking for a single man. And people normally state what they look for, although I have had the occasional doubt they were telling the truth (of being single and looking for FWB, more likely married and ONS). Cons is that I've also had much more requests for photos and sexting, as @hateexpensivepillows said some men might mistake it for free OnlyFans 🙄

@hateexpensivepillows I think you're probably right about the men generally looking for casual or FWB. I'm poly and looking for long-term dating, and most men aren't matching that. The second person I connected with I'm still dating three years on though. As @AlwaysGreen said though, I think people are generally a bit more honest - most ENM people on there haven't got any truck with the married men cheating, I don't think they are so successful there. Lately OkCupid is proving well for me on the non-monogamous part of it