DH just isn’t interested in me.
He has always had a lower sex drive than me, but he actively seems to avoid it now.
I’ve never told my friends about my problem, but it’s upsetting when they are complaining about their DH wanting blowjobs. I wish mine did, I offer and he scarpers! I’m not sure they’d understand how heartbreaking it is to have your DH not want you anymore.
On the (very rare) occasions that he agrees to sex it is over in two or three thrusts… He apparently doesn’t like foreplay anymore, and refuses to do it. He also gets incredibly defensive if we talk about it. I’ve tried so many times and he just shuts me down and makes me feel bad for asking.
DH does have a medical problem, and is 12 years older than me, but does nothing about it. He didn’t bother following up with the gp, and has never bothered picking up his prescription of viagra.
I’ve started to fantasise about men I see regularly on the school run, well one in particular. I don’t want to cheat, but have caught myself thinking ‘well, the family is probably going to split up anyway…’ which I know is bad!
DH would never consent to an open relationship. I feel so trapped.
I guess this is less of a ‘why do you think he’s doing it’ post and more of a ‘what would you do in this situation?’.