How to come onto him?!

[Shleepymummy]

Essentially, DH and I just never have sex, and he seems to be the only man I’ve heard of who just doesn’t mind not getting any. Friends husbands seem to pester/ask for sex regularly, but not mine! We are in our 30s and have two young children (4 months and 2.5yr) so we are tired but I wouldn’t say we are completely knackered. Will stay up till 9/10pm watching tv, kids go to bed at 7. I’ve given up waiting for him to initiate stuff so thought maybe I need to make the effort and try. I just don’t know how to do it really….without it feeling unnatural or forced. I’m not very confident with this stuff. Neither is he. And what if he says no, which I worry about because clearly he isn’t fussed about trying it on his own merits.

I saw that. It was a disgusting thing to do to someone.

OP, if things feel forced, it doesn't say much for the state of your relationship.

@Shleepymummy It's still early doors for you both family wise (going from one child to more can feel huge) and from personal experience some men can take longer to adjust to the new dynamic as well as the tiredness you both must feel.

Definitely talk and in relation to your initial post if you want to instigate sometimes starting from what you do that makes you feel sexy can be bloody contagious 😆

Anyway good luck and report back!!

Oh and when I read the title a couple of things came to mind!!😁

It sounds like he has a very low sex drive or might be asexual if he never shows any interest and shuts down all conversation. I'd be concerned that your advances might well be rejected.
I think you need to have the conversation again and say that you feel it keeps being shut down by him and you were wondering why that was.

Speaking as member of the less fair sex, have you tried just giving him a cuddle ? Men are from Mars and Women from Venus is now a dusty tome, but still has done grains of truth. We are expected to provide solutions and when they don't work we get the hump ( Bad choice of words maybe !) and we don't want to talk about it .
But destress it, relax, cuddle him and show him you still desire him without being demanding confrontational and see how it goes.

Thanks all! Tried some suggestions. Had a cuddle in bed and I tried touching certain areas but wasn’t reciprocated…..tired. So that’s that…fail!

On no :(
It's sad that on the one hand this Forem is full of women missing their husband and on the other hand husbands missing their wives.
Or maybe I'm reading the wrong threads !

Only this time. Keep the door open (not the bedroom door, obviously.) And try and have a chat too.

Only on this occasion, keep cuddling and touching,