Apparently my bjs are to tickly

[Roxieandthegang]

So as the title says....
Never had any complaints before but they are 'tickle too much' for him. I've never had any complaints before and to be honest makes me feel quite shitty as I enjoy giving them- I'm quite open with all that (apart from rimming that a bit too much for me! 🤢)

Anyone else had this comment??

I have asked him what he wants me to do different but he doesn't say alot?

Trying to conceive too so I thought without too much pressure I could get him going without there being so much pressure on him!

Help needed ladies and gents if you see this too! 🙏

What help are you looking for? Do you want someone to describe in detail how to give a man a blow job?

You need to be able to communicate with each other. The real issue here is that you can't talk to each other.

My glans are quite sensitive to touch, not sure I would use the word “tickly” , but a more firm touch is preferred to a very light touch, as that is almost unpleasant, shaft has almost no feeling for some reason 🤷🏼

OP, as you say nobody has raised this before, it sounds as if the problem rests entirely with him. ‘Not sure how you change things though. You could try a lot firmer but that might risk hurting him.

@Roxieandthegang Talk and experiment with more pressure, Penis has different sensation receptors to rest of body.

Remember to set it up the Q&A properly as my parents always said it's rude to speak with your mouth full 😆

Unusual description / feedback, but I guess it's saying he would like it firmer. There's no harm in just asking him how he would like it and what works and what doesn't. Talking is better than trying to read each others minds

Another vote for speaking to him about it. I would probably find the lighter touch too "tickly" and off putting. I prefer a firmer touch. A couple of ex's have gone pretty much straight in for deep-throating which I simply do not like at all.

If he doesn't like how you do it, but won't tell you what he does like then I would not do it anymore.

it sounds as if the problem rests entirely with him

thats quite a presumptuous statement to make, just because no-one has raised this, doesn’t mean it’s not true.

OP, as others say, he might prefer more pressure, different pressure, could be anything really

Thanks for the comments guys and girls it's nice to have an inputs from both sides 🙏

I think I just feel more embarrassed than anything!

Maybe I'm just paranoid!
Its a long term relationship so I know he has been watching porn a long time, I do wonder about chaterbate or he's just not that into me 😭

It’s a shame you feel like you do. Could you take some comfort in the fact he actually told you? Granted he was possibly not the most descriptive. But it may have took a bit of courage to mention it.

From my own experience I can only interpret “to tickley” as possible to much lite tongue simulation. Particularly slow and sensuous as i can find that a bit “tickley”

I see what you’re saying about the porn stuff but he may just want stronger and firmer stimulation. Rather than wanting a full on porn job.

My final thought and apologies if this is a little base I’d just say I want to suck you cock how do you want it? I genuinely don’t know a single chap that would not guild you with that information in an instant and plenty that would think all their Christmas’s had come at once!!

Best of luck TTC 👍

It's hard to receive negative feedback when your actions are focusing on your partner's pleasure. Hearing YES is always more rewarding.
And some people just find it hard to say what they want. It can be easier to say NO than describe something that makes you feel good.
Communication and empathy are key. When you're not in the bedroom, ask him how he feels about it, does he actually like blowjobs at all? Let him know you enjoy giving him pleasure and that you want to know how he likes it. And let him know how you feel about his feedback, and make sure to use "I statements" so you're not blaming or criticising him.
Hope you can sort it out.

You need to delve deeper by asking him about his previous experiences. If all the other blowjobs he has had from a variety of partners were excellent, then your technique may be suspect.

My suspicion is that he hasn't had much experience in the way of blowjobs and the problem is with him.

Don't forget that we are all different: I love a blowjob, but plenty of men are not that keen and it has nothing to do with the skills of the giver.