Swiped right in BIL on Tinder….

[NCforAnon]

I came accords my BIL on Tinder yesterday lunchtime and was shocked! Sis and I are close and she has never said anything about issues with their relationship or not trusting him.

So I went into detective mode.
When I swiped right I got the “it’s a match” notification and I didn’t really know what to do. I just left it to think about it.

Sis called meant night and chat was normal, and then she surprised me by asking if I meant to swipe right on BIL? Same tone that she’d have asking if I wanted to go to a gif at the weekend.

I told her I wanted to find out what his face was doing on Tinder, and this is when I learnt my sister and BIL are swingers!

I am not a prude (or don’t think I am) and I have a “you do you as long as you ain’t hurting anyone” mentality to life/sex. But this was unexpected!

Sis made a point that there are a few people I know who are “in the lifestyle” and it’s more common that I think.

I’ve never considered a non-monogamous relationship before, and thought my Sis was the same as me, are they really that common these days?

Are you going to?

It wasn’t my intention when I found BIL on Tinder. Having said that, I’m single and I’ve been assured it’s OK and not cheating, so….. maybe I will.

Noooooooo.
there’s swinging and then there’s sleeping with your sisters husband.

That’s messier than a truck of treacle crashing into a truck of golden syrup.

Everyone is going to get covered and you’ll never clean the sticky completely off.

Yes, it's more common than you'd think.

No, you really shouldn't do it with your BIL. At some point it'll go to shit.

No, I won’t do anything with BIL. Not going to lie, there was a temptation but as PP have said it is just inviting trouble.

back to my actual question, how common is swinging/non-monogamy?

I've been on fab swingers a while but have only met single men so far (or at least they say they are single!)

I have recently started seeing a guy who I met on Facebook dating and we have talked about having an ENM (ethical non monogamy) relationship. We've both joined a polyamory Facebook group.

After years married to the same man, I no longer want to be with just one guy for the rest of my life so I am definitely thinking about it.

I've been on fab for years and it's definitely common. I'm also on Feeld which also confirms that it happens.

It's super common. Since I became open two years ago, I've realised five other parents I know at school are open in some way, we just keep it quiet.

Not that I would go for my BIL though, that is too close for me!

I started as open with DH, thinking we'd be swingers, but I'm not into no-strings sex so I'm now poly and in relationships with several people. I would recommend Feeld, as a PP mentioned. It started as a dating app for poly people but has branched out to cover kink, swing etc. As long as you state what you're looking for, you're good. I've had some very good connections from there, inc my most recent boyfriend and a guy I've been dating for two years now.

I've never met anyone from Fab yet, as every time I go to they admit that they're cheating! That's my red line, I don't want to cause any hurt to anyone and there are so many ethically non-monogamous guys here that I wouldn't need to. Plus Fab guys send the worst messages, I'm only still on it as I know a few people who got married after meeting on there so I'm always holding out hope