Oral sex finally but disappointed

[User1002]

So lately I have been fantasising about getting oral sex from my husband as he hasn't done so in years.
He finally did it tonight and well I'm disappointed that I didnt feel like he was putting in enough effort so wasn't as enjoyable as I pictured it in my head. It still felt great but then I started to get a bit bored when he inserted his fingers and so I started faking an orgasm.
I can tell he was really trying though, he was starting to get sweaty and when we eventually moved to having intercourse i was just getting over it so faked an orgasm which he liked.

We haven't had sex in months so maybe this is why, I'm not sure. Any tips?

It could be he was out of practice or doesn't really know what to do to get you there. I mean when I do it I can usually get a reading of what's working and what's not.

Did you used to enjoy it when he used to before?

I'll say one thing though, if you fake it he will never learn because he will think whatever he is doing wrong is working.

Why fake your pleasure if it's not happening? Don't give false signals that you've been fulfilled if it's not the case.
He thinks he's won gold when actually his still in the heats to qualify.
Much better you're honest and direct him to the things that feel good and hit the spot, that way faking won't be necessary and you'll both be rewarded.

use positive feedback, don’t fake it & have sex more often as you both need to have fun.

Yes - stop faking your orgasms.

Don’t fake it! Maybe he’s not skilled enough in that area. Instead if getting bored, give feedback! He needs to learn pressure and rhythm.

Why did you have a long dry period? Have there been other problems? Could it be that you were not emotionally ready? Passion is a key ingredient.

l once got criticised on MN for saying another woman understands how a woman “works” and knows what to do better than any man, but it’s true.

It’s more than just what you’re doing though. I couldn’t get turned on for a woman at all, so in that sense, no it’s not true, at least not for everyone.

A lot about sex is in the mind, especially for women. It’s not just what you do, it’s how they make you feel in other ways too.

He may find it hot if you give him directions while he does it. Further up, further down, slower with the tongue, whatever. Otherwise, how is he supposed to know?

I agree, direction is needed. Get him to suck the clit also as I've found some men aren't aware that this feels amazing for a woman.

I think I criticised you about that, and I standby that as well, the person I’m currently seeing likes oral ( and fingers and toys), but not women ( sexually), so I’m pretty sure she would not be happy / turned on enough by another woman to respond and enjoy

Same for me - women just don’t do it for me, no matter how good they might be at it 😂

There are many aspects of the actual love making between two women that are just different. Obviously you know that there will be no "big finish" but orgasms might well be more in quantity and duration.
Oral can be one of the ways it becomes more intense, one knows that is a destination not a step along the way.
I like it, I'm pleased I changed.

I faked orgasms with this guy I was casually seeing and I wish I hadn’t because he should have known that a) what he was doing wasn’t good and b) he wasn’t pleasuring me.

He was an arsehole in other means, but he was selfish in the bedroom and I should have spoken up. Instead we prioritised his orgasm and just forgot about me.

Prepare for more of the same he’ll be under the impression he’s done a Stirling job

I get why I shouldn't fake it but I'm really sex shy too so struggle to tell him what I want and like also!

Most men are grateful to be told.