Painful sex

[rach971]

Probably just me lol - but does anyone else find it painful at the beginning of sex when it's er... going in 😂 It's really uncomfortable for the first minute or two (we do use lube). After that it's fine. I'm wondering if it's vaginismus. I hate it though. I just want to be 'normal' 😫

I do too @rach971 so you aren’t alone!

I tried to talk to the doctor about it and she said it was because he is ‘well endowed’ as some positions are more painful than others etc.

Its an issue for our sex life though and I also have wondered about vaginismus.

I don't have a problem, but we always have plenty of foreplay. Suggest you do as well...oral is great and perhaps before he goes in, make sure he has used his fingers inside and make sure he has slid a couple of fingers in together....will make sure you are wet enough and also stretched a little and ready for him

@Dumbles Thank you, I think that's part of the problem here too! I'm quite, er, on the tighter side 😂 and he's quite large so it definitely doesn't help 😫 I'm sure vaginismus must have a part to play as well though. I can feel myself tense up but I don't know how to not do that 🙈

I’m really hoping someone will come along with a success story for this one for us 😳

I dont go around comparing myself so I don't know but been told I'm large/girthy and have found I can accidentally hurt partners.

If I were to push too hard too soon it ends up hurting them like tearing almost and I can feel it, it hurts me as well...like chafing.

What I do, is do foreplay beforehand and once ready to go in, use lube but only the head inside and be patient. Then just slow and gentle rocks, like slow fluid soft movements without pushing or forcing in, while playing or touching. Usually what happens is partner gets more relaxed, wetter and with that movement it allows more in by itself without much effort. Apparently that amount in is also nice feeling as well...seems to work anyway.

Hth