Unprotected sex - horse already bolted or is it worth using condoms?

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I had unprotected sex. I didn't know it was on the cards, wasn't prepared, didn't stop myself doing something I very much wanted to do. I know that I shouldn't have got myself into that situation. It's the first time I've had unprotected sex.

Pregnancy isn't an issue. He has had a vasectomy (completely trust him on that - this is someone I have known for a very long time).

I have done a bit of reading and see that it makes sense to wait until 28 days have passed to have an STI test and I'll do that.

What I am wondering is where to go from here. In terms of protection from STIs has that ship already sailed after DTD once? I feel as though a conversation is needed saying that if we want to continue without condoms that we should both have an STI test. Or I'll just take condoms with me next time and insist on using them in the moment (which will no doubt be a surprise given that I didn't last time). Is it ridiculous to insist on using condoms when we've already had unprotected sex?

No, it isn’t ridiculous at all. If he has an STI he may not have passed it on this time but could in the future.

If using condoms is a big issue for him then he shouldn't have the privilege of needing one.

Do you know that he's not sleeping with other people? As he could pick something up in future and pass to you. I'll be honest here, I once had an STI. I got tested a week after unprotected sex and it showed up as positive. I'm not certain but I think it's HIV that you need to repeat a test for, if you test too soon. I don't think the same applies to the likes of chlamydia, gonorrhea etc but I'm not an expert, just talking from my own experience. Go to your GUM clinic or doctor and discuss with them the best way forward.

Start using condoms until you both have clear STI tests, I’m sure he won’t want to catch anything from you either

Yes you need to use condoms, you don’t know his sexual history and you shouldn’t be exposing yourself to possible STDs. You both need to get tested and only then can you stop using condoms.

For your own comfort, you really both should take an STI test. The home test kits available from Lloyd's pharmacy are so simple so use and results come back in a couple of days.

We had unprotected sex in the heat of the moment, discussed it shortly after and ordered test kits straight away. Still having delightful unprotected sex

You can still get pregnant if he's had a vasectomy... Albeit rare but still a miniscule possibility.

But yeah, I'd use condoms until you get your results back. And even then you'd have to be extremely trusting he wasn't sleeping with others

Smart women carry condoms.