What age is the best for sex?

[Liverpoolgirl50]

So I was thinking earlier - my late teens were full of early fumbles with nobody really knowing what they were doing.

My 20’s were much better - learning what I liked in bed, all the time and energy with no kids and lots of lazy afternoon sessions.

My 30’s so far have been a bit hit and miss. I know what I like and I’m not scared to ask for it, so I’m much more satisfied. However, now we have a baby so the frequency is far less.

Does it get better - or worse?! Feel like my sex life may have peaked in my 20’s.

Personally, I think it gets much, much better the older you get (at least it has for me)

Definitely better the older you get. I’ve been with my DH since I was 23 and we’re having the best sex now (early 40s). We know each other, can laugh at each other and aren’t afraid (for the most part) to ask for what we want.

I'm having my best sex now I'm 35. I feel like my sex drive has always been high and that's stayed the same, but since I met my husband at 28 the sex I'm having is the best I've had. I had all my kids in my 20s though, so I don't have any babies or toddlers to care for.

Went through a slump in my 40s with kids and perimenopause. In my 50s it's amazing. We are both comfortable enough to try anything and have filthy sex now

Male - late teens, early to mid twenties.
I was very active during these years and had some long term relationships where it was amazing.
I got married in my late twenties and then it died. I've now no confidence and all sorts of hang ups through the constant rejection the last 17 years have brought so maybe I'm not a fair representation and possibly just killed the fun 🤦‍♂️

Early 50's, never been better.

I'm 32 and mine up to now was probably the best between around age 17-22

50s have been the best so far, but some of it is down to finding the ideal partner

DW and I are closing in on 50 and having the best sex we've ever had. We're more experienced, much more confident, comfortable with each other, we've tried lots of things and we know what we like. We don't have the raw desire we had when we were younger, and we certainly haven't as much youthful beauty and vitality but that doesn't matter.

Having kids did put a damper on things but once they'd reached a certain age that wasn't so much a factor.

I’m mid 40’s and had the best sex with a guy I was seeing recently - though maybe just because he was so open / adventurous and that brought out the more kinky side of me. I definitely know what I want at this age and I’m not having anymore dull sex

That's really sad that 17 peaked for you when most of us are just starting to figure out what we like at that age. You're still young though and its never too late.

Interesting responses! I’m praying once we are through the baby/toddler phase it will come back!

Mid 40s for me.

I've got an appetite for sex now post divorce that I never had during my 20 year marriage. And a "I don't give a crap what you think of me, I'm going for it" attitude.

I'm also the most comfortable in my skin that I've ever been in my life, so I'm embracing the wobbly bits now rather than hiding them away.

We're both 51 and have been together for years, but our sex life is the best it's ever been.
When we were younger we were worried/trying to avoid getting pregnant, then when we wanted to get pregnant we couldn't & years of infertility took its toll on our sex life. Interestingly, my libido has increased hugely during perimenopause & we are enjoying this new phase. Children are growing up, so we've not got the tiredness that we had in younger years & we're not concerned about getting pregnant, so not having to faff with contraception. It's definitely got better for us. There are lots of nice positive stories on here.

When I could shag who I wanted. Long term relationships bore me.

20's, young lots of energy and highly aroused. Experimenting lots and just more spontaneous. My orgasms were also alot better before kids. I miss it.

Mine was aged 44-46. I know that sounds very specific, but I had the classic perimenopausal hormone 'sex surge', and my libido was insane for two years (I just wanted sex all the time - DH didn't know what had hit him!). Sadly that's now eased in my late 40s, but I'm still having much better sex than I did in my 20s and 30s. The worst time was definitely my early 30s to early 40s, while I had young children. I could quite happily have had no sex for a decade back then.

Him: 23 and never married
Her: 36 with a 5 year old.

BEST sex ever.

It is true seems to get better with age
now at 58 and retired we really take the time which is lovely fore play can be extended as no rush afternoon sex if we fancy or just a quickie as you get older I think less inhibited as well so communication is way faster as well

Like @sexthreadusername I'm experiencing the peri surge at 44 and wow is it intense! In my twenties and early thirties had lots of sex but wasn't as confident as I am now. Mid to late thirties was early years of parenthood so definitely took a hit. Didn't expect this but riding the wave (so to speak!) as no idea how long it will last... heartening to hear of great sex in your fifties though!

Early 50's proper decent filth for both of us. We've tried many things in the last few years including a two day trip to Cap D'Agde.

Ah, yes, heard of that place, what's it like?

I became asexual after having my second child at 35, it lasted a few years but it did get better. We've since become polyamorous, I'm 45 and having the best sex I've ever had. I'm more confident about exploring, I will say what I do and don't like rather than settle or stay in the same routine. I never knew I could squirt, it turns out there was so much more to learn! In my case it has helped having different partners as they've introduced me to new ideas, but I think learning and researching (we have some great sex classes for couples near me to help them explore if you're brave enough to try things in public) could give you some ideas. But when your kids are little and there's so much going on with your body and brain, I think libido can take a back seat.